When i cant talk tomy gfi get soo depresed, and i jus virtually cut myself off from the wrld...how can i improve????is it affecting my other relationships???
sumtimes my frnds think i am bored of them...I AM TO BE BLAMED!!!how can i improve??
2006-06-20 10:15:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sorry about the mutiliated grammar...i tend to make a lot of mistakes when i am sad.
2006-06-20 10:25:17 · update #1
Hello dear one! It's easy to get wrapped up in love but I would like you to realize that, the more you focus on your love, the less you can see outside that circle of love. We all need people, we all have a need and desire to be in love but if we suffer from love tunnel vision, we will miss out on being our whole selves. Remember, that you are enough, that you, dear one, are a whole within yourself. To the celebrate love is the grandest delight however don't lose yourself in love, rather grow within love, do not be less but be more. Take care! :D
2006-06-21 14:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by ******** 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no perfect relief that can be offered in such a situation. I have experience enough to know what i say. I, too, know that when you cannot talk to your girlfriend, you get upset and depressed, wondering what is going on and why the two of you cannot speak. It is hard sometimes to come to the realization that people do lead lives outside of you, and that you cannot expect them to be with you, talking to you, and thinking of you every single minute of your life. As for your other relationships, if they are true friends, they will see that you are upset, and, rather than putting the blame on you saying that you are bored of them, they will try and help you through the down times. Maybe all you need to do is to talk to them, and tell them what is going on and how you are feeling, and then they might understand. And, you are not to be blamed. What you are feeling is just the depressing effects of being in love with someone, and not being with that someone. If you know your own self worth, what need you care about the acceptance or rejection of others? All you can really do, as i know from experience, is to try and fill some of your time that you cannot speak with her with other activities; watch t.v., go to the movies, talk to your other friends (call them, hang out, etc.), or find some other activity that will fill that empty time. try to be happy and optimistic. Remember, that if you get too sad, and it starts to show, that could mark the end of your relationship. Whatever you do, just try and remain happy and optimistic, and instead of being sad that you cannot talk to your girlfriend, be happy that she is doing other things, and having a good time. Good luck to you, and i hope it all works out.
2006-06-20 17:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're self confidence may be a little low. Stop looking down on yourself and focus on the good stuff. Life has much to offer. See what's out there in the world and think about where you fit in. I'm sure once you look on the positive side of stuff, you'll discover there is more to you and your relationships with others than you previously thought.
2006-06-20 17:20:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jim M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you think she won't know how you feel and that alone is depressing. You can't talk to others because you feel like they will think you are crazy or weird. It's not that your friends bore you, it's just that you have so many things that run through your head and you are dealing with that and it is hard to pay attention to others. It sounds like you are unhappy. Something in your life makes you unhappy. It could be from your past or just things you are dealing with now. My advice to you and to anyone who asks it is to pray. You may not be religious, but I am and I know that God will help you. He is real. I used to feel the exact same way as you and when I started praying, things just somehow fell into place. Just try it. What do you have to lose?
2006-06-20 17:29:48 · answer #4 · answered by Karma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm maybe your in love LOL .. but you shouldnt base your life around this one girl .. thats not healthy I done it for 10 years and it wasnt worth it .. I lost all family and friends and im now having problam with this guy .. I even lost myself somewhere along the line .. dont change the person you are over NO GIRL .. theres a good chance she wont always be there ..something to think about !
2006-06-20 17:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't cut yourself off from the world, there's things out there you may need to be connected with. There's nothing wrong with missing your gf, it just shows that you care about her, it's a natural feeling.
2006-06-20 17:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by capricornenchantress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu sound messed up bro...why cant you talk to her...figure out the problem, then its easier to solve it...but for now you should probably not be with anyone until you figure this situation out...b/c it will just hurt you both in the long run...sorry bud
2006-06-20 17:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by perfectguyw/othelooks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have very low self-esteem. My thoughts are what is your home life like? How do you interact with your immediate family (MOM/DAD/Brothers/Sisters). If your family is disfunctional it only stands to reason you will be that way too.
See out professional help. Get counseling. Try to get yourself involved by doing something you love.
2006-06-20 17:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to know that there is more to life than a gf....your family and other friends should be allowed to share enough time with you so your current relationship doesn't get boring...
2006-06-20 17:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've allowed yourself to get obssesed with her!! Not saying that its a bad thing, but sometimes obssession isn't always good. When you feel like shutting down, you might need to take a break.
2006-06-20 17:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by just_nettie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋