My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 1/2 yrs and we have 2 kids. We've talked about getting married before and were even engaged last year but he said he wasn't sure he wanted to get married. We resently got saved and I know we should get married so what should I do? I don't want to pressure him.
2006-06-20 10:03:23 · 18 answers · asked by Carrie D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont pressure him but let him know that you think you're ready to spend the rest of your life with him and that you guys have 2 beautiful children. he should know what to do and what's right especially when you guys got saved. good job on that, it feels good to have god doesn't it?! best wishes for your family's future!!
2006-06-20 10:22:14 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Miss X♥ 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
For the past 9 1/2 yrs you did not pressure him why now.. you got 2 kids from him at that time you did not why now? what difference does it make if he married you or not anymore... if you end up getting separated he will by law has to pay for child support so what now.. so what is your excuse for getting married now?
Live the way you been living for the past decade no need to change anything nothing good will come out of till... he still be your kids father that's all that matters right. If you really wanted to be called his wife you should have done that when you got pregnant.
2006-06-20 17:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason why the two of you haven't got married in the 9 1/2 years you've been together. Only you and your boyfriend can answer that question. Perhaps, your boyfriend moreso than you, can honestly answer the question.
Just because you get married doesn't improve the relationship, it only adds to it, especially if there are problems. Marriage is hard enough, and harder when you've got problems to begin with.
By your boyfriend getting saved, this will either do one or two things...Providing he has completely given his life to Christ...He'll stop having sex with you, if you are living together, he'll move out and get his own place..Or, marry you because it's better to marry than burn...AND you'll probably still be miserable...Speaking from experience!
If he doesn't wont to marry you and haven't all this time. It's probably time you throw in the towel and go about your business..Be happy!
2006-06-20 17:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by WhatEVER27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 9 1/2 years I think he can take a little pressure. Look, he's apparently happy with the way that things are, but you are not. You are in charge of your own happiness. If you want to get married tell him,.
2006-06-20 17:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by kissy972001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to go to marriage counseling at what ever church you attend. If you don't have a church and you just got saved, you should find one. Make it clear that marriage counseling does not mean that marriage in imminent, it will just be a good chance to get some advice and work out some of the your past problems and address some future ones. If he is not willing to go, he may not be the man for you.
2006-06-20 17:09:04 · answer #5 · answered by cathcoug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fel you. Either do it or let me go . Do what your heart says. We cant say leave or stay , Im in the same situation .Ive been in a relationship for 4years, 2 engaged , I am giving him until December to make up his mind . But in the mean time while he is making up his mind .Im losing the love i had for him. Keep that attitude and the right decision will automatically come to you.
2006-06-20 17:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by belizeigram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited for over 12 years for my husband to decide that the time was right to marry.I love him, and trust him and while we don't have any children, we did own a house together. If things are going OK, then wait for it to be the right time for him. If you are religious, remember that a committed family raising children in the faith is better than pushing your partner into something they aren't ready for and then getting divorced later.
2006-06-20 17:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by moviegirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 9 and 1/2 years does it relly matter...
2006-06-20 17:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ever heard of the saying PUSH! Well it's time to PUSH and I don't mean to pressure him, but to
Pray Until Something Happens! If you pray God will answer all the desires of your heart! Trust in the Lord for He is good!
2006-06-20 17:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to pressure him.. 2 kids.. that is a commitment weather he likes it or not.. it is time he manned up and married you
2006-06-20 17:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by Desiree K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋