Say you have been dating a guy for quite along time, and he asks you to marry him. Everything is going great until - your first true love which is now one of your best friends contacts you - who you haven't talked to in 2 years because you both just lost contact... and he tells you how much he loves you and wants you to reconsider getting married. And the kicker?? You love him too and always will because he was your true love?? But the guy that you are with now is great and you love him too??? What would you do???
2006-06-20 09:48:15 · 22 answers · asked by Jennie33Ldybg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Besides cloning yourself, there isn't much you can do.
You need to make decision now, and soon. The more you waffle over it, the worse it will become.
stick with the one who asked you first. The other guy, is more of a dream of your past. And is colored by that fact, it's more of a fantasy than a real person to you now.
2006-06-20 09:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by johnb693 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back and look at the situation. You have a guy that has been gone for a while. You don't know why he decided that he loves you. Did he just get out of a relationship or does he just miss you? Is he just lonely (or horny) right now? The other guy you have been dating a while and as you say things are going great. If you love him, you should marry him. Do you have doubts of your love? If so, you should talk to your boyfriend. Don't just leave him hanging. He's probably very nervous right now, having asked you to marry him. You should respect his feelings as well and be open with him about how you are feeling.
2006-06-20 16:58:15 · answer #2 · answered by thechosenoneortwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.. toughy. Do not get married if your not sure. The whole point of marriage is that you are 100% that this is the person you are supposed to grow old with. If your aren't sure, which you are definitely not, it's not fair to the guy you are with or yourself. Tell him you need time to think things through and have some private time without either of the guys influence. If this other guy really is your "true love" then you might want to reconsider the current relationship!
2006-06-20 16:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Pinky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first true love? He's one of your best friends but you haven't seen him in two years? Dump your current guy, go back to the old flame and have him leave you again. Then you can be alone and lonely. Its the price for the the greener grass theory. Maybe the guy you break up with today will come back in two years and rescue you from your loneliness.
2006-06-20 17:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you certainly shouldnt get married, if you are still in love with someone else you owe it to yourself and your marriage to make sure this is what you really want, FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE, remember till death do us part, marriage should not be dont just because you love someone, love comes easy but marriage is hard work, if you plan to have a house and cars and insurance and cable and a phone and utilities, you need to think in the long run and not just the here and now, who is more responsible, who do you want to be the father of your children one day, and how do you know you really love this old flame, people change, you may love the guy he use to be but will you love the man he is now?
2006-06-20 16:59:10 · answer #5 · answered by Sandie L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant have the love for one and the other at the same time. if you are that confused to think you love both men the same way... maybe you should take a step back and reevaluate the situation. then once you have your self straight and only then.... you may be ready to make a decsion because the answer should just fall into your lap. you may even realize that you dont have feelings for either of them like you thought you did. well thats what i would do anyway....
2006-06-20 16:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by jaysbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life will always through you curve balls to see if you make the right decision. You haven't talked to this person in 2 years, he calls out of nowhere and now your questioning getting married. You shouldn't be getting married. If someone you haven't talked to in 2 yrs can make you question it then that should tell you something.
2006-06-20 16:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there had to be a reason y u and your true love didnt work out. so u should stay w/the guy u have right now. and u would have married him if u hadnt heard from your true love so he must be good enough for u.
2006-06-20 17:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell No, I'm sorry I'm married now and once i get out of this marriage i will never marry again, i will long time relationship but being single is awesome, are you ready to be committed? Or do you like the "i don't have to answer to anybody"?
2006-06-20 16:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by edrenil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! Take the high road and be honest. You may just find out the true character of each man. True character is exposed when one faces situations that test their moral fiber. You'll be able to sleep with ur self at night.
2006-06-20 16:58:39 · answer #10 · answered by I want to know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋