Cheating, it happend after a year of marriage. we have now been married for three years. So two years after the event, and I admit it, I was the dirt bag, but I was honest and confessed everything right after it happened, it was one time and one time only, not that it is justified, My wife loves me, but I can tell when she looks at me she just isn't happy and she doesn't see the same person she fell in love with. We have been working for two years now to get over this and I know it is not something that just goes away, but I think we both want to know if we are wasting our time? Is it always going to be lingering and making life miserable. The other woman is way out of the picture now. I would like to see it work out for us, but we are struggling. What do I do?
2006-06-20 09:16:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you both honestly love each other don't give up. True love is hard to find. I do know what shes going through. Ive been there. Its the hardest thing I've ever done. But we also love each other. Trust is some thing that takes forever to get back. and very slowly you will. one step at a time. If you need to seek professional help, do whatever you can before you call it quits. My heart goes out to you both. Best of luck!
2006-06-20 09:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough one, no **** right? You can't really do anything to help the situation. You came clean and that should be taken into consideration, but the only thing that could ever really make your wife ok with your cheating on her, is if it never happened. It did happen and you can't take that back. Both of you just need time to cope with it. I know that to you two years seems like a hell of a price to pay for something that went down in an hour. Your wife still probably feels very insecure and probably still has trust issues with you. If she didn't love you anymore then she wouldn't be there. Her presence should mean alot to you. Alot of women, myself included, would NEVER stand for a man cheating on them. At least she is willing to try. Just give it a little more time. Be there for her. Talk to her about if when she wants to talk. Make her feel beautiful. Make her KNOW that she is the only person you love. She wants it to work out, both of you do, that is a good start. Just be patient. What you did was truly hurtful to her and she just isn't ready to allow herself to be completely happy for fear that her happiness will be snatched from her. I really do believe you are very sorry for what you did. I wish you the best of luck. Just hang in there, give it time.
2006-06-20 09:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by just_a_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My marriage survived. I cheated once, when I was young. We have been married since we were 17. I'm 29 now. The reason for my cheating is I was very inexperienced. In any case, I would never do it again. Your marriage can always recover. Find out why he cheats, and see if you guys can prevent it by working together.
2016-03-26 23:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why you cheated? Did you tell your wife why you cheated? You have to be honest with yourself before you can move forward. You have to look at the reason you did what you did. You sound as if you feel guilty (and you should) but it is up to your wife to forgive you. You should try marriage counseling now to see if you can salvage what you once had.
2006-06-20 09:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by JAQ2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it can work out. you both need to put what happened in the past and keep it there. you might almost have to start all over take her on dates show her how much you love her. don't check out other women when shes around cuz if she sees that she will lose her trust in u
2006-06-20 09:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by lilmamaskj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to try marriage counseling. What you did is something I could never forget.
2006-06-20 09:20:23 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋