am i reading the wrong signals.
the boy i love, who knows i love him, said to me he just wanted to be friends. so i sort of took the hint. but its little things like today, when he asked me who the top 5 boys in our school were. so i told him? think he was disappointed when he wasn't in my list? anywho, i was just wondering about it, and why he does things like that. any advice will be appreciated. x
2006-06-20 09:08:59 · 12 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ps. he told me his top 5 girls but i wasn't one of them
2006-06-20 09:09:19 · update #1
He's flattered that you like him. It boosts his self-esteem. Sounds to me like he's got a lower confindence level than you realize. He probably cares alot about what the popular kids in school think about him? You may not realize, but he really does care.
Sounds to me like he likes you but is afraid of what the other kids will think if he goes out with you. He's just too young to realize right now. But, hey, he wants to be your friend. Be his friend!
That's how the greatest, longest-lasting relationships start out. Don't fawn over him, just chill w/ him. Be buds! They love that.
2006-06-20 09:13:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lenore 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He is probably confused too, or wants it both ways. He doesn't sound like the type of guy, but maybe he wants you as a Friend with Benefits.
He could have a crush on you, but not want to admit it, or maybe he wants you to like him without him having to make any commitment. He wants to keep you around as a friend but won't hint to you that he likes you. Or in case he ever starts liking you.
My best guess would be to confront him and ask him what's really going on. Like why he asked you that question and seemed disappointed with your answer.
If none of this helps, don't lose your head over it. Don't try to read any more signals. If he wants you, he'll eventually crawl out of his shell and say it. Just go on with life trying to be comfortable with the fact you are just friends. Maybe you'll run into someone else and lose your crush on him. Keep your eyes open for other potentials (good ones) so you don't end up alone.
2006-06-20 09:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I read the first part as 'big dick' lol, didn't realize till I got to the end that the letters weren't in the right places.
2016-05-20 06:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a million things, but I would guess that he is afraid of commitment. He wants you in his life and even wants to be close to you, but still wants to have the option of finding someone else. If this is the case, you can stay close friends with him until he realizes his foolishness (or you realize he will never change), or you can move on and force him to commit or lose you. (It might also be easier on the heart to move on rather than waiting.)
2006-06-20 09:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by dextrose79x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time anymore in stupid conversations such as the one you have described. Move on and maybe try one of the guys on your top 5!
2006-06-20 09:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like he is wanting more from you than he is willing to give.He seems to want to be the center of your attention, but dosen`t want to treat you the same way.Take is slow, me and my husband we just like that all through school and now we are married with an 8 year old son.
2006-06-20 09:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by Heather D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him but he is not on your top 5? You are not truthful, and neither is he. You both are too young and these are just games you play. You don't know what love is.
"When in love, one and one is one." -Sartre
That means no game. If you hurt the other person, you hurt yourself, if you are in love.
2006-06-20 09:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your too young to know love right now and he just wants to be friends move on and date several other guys not just one.
2006-06-20 09:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could he possibly be playing hard to get? you might just want to tell him. Oh, and don't be all accusitory, I did that at a dance, and it turned out ok, but I was really embarrassed. Maybe he is really way to shy to tell you. Ask him. It works. Trust me.
2006-06-20 09:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jinx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did it first so of course he did it too. Why would you not put him on your list when you say you love him. He was probably testing you when he said lets be freinds and didn't expect you to agree to it
2006-06-20 09:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋