i keep telling the guy i was with to change his ways... the ppl. he hangs around, drugs, the way he treats me, etc. needless to say, everytime he says he wont talk to his friends, he ends up doing it and putting me on the backburner and treating me like absolute DIRT!! why is it that he keeps going back to these losers who point him in the wrong direction instead of changing to be with me like he claims he wants? im so sick of getting hurt by him i told him this is the LAST time. and he doesnt seem to care about that either, bc he has his friends now.
2006-06-20 09:08:50 · 36 answers · asked by kkaze 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree. Why bother trying to change somebody that is obviously happy the way he his? I think you need to find what you deem to be a better man. By the way, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be first in his life! If you can't get it from him, get from somebody who can. Good Luck.
2006-06-20 09:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy tells you that he is willing to change because he likes you a lot and he would want to change to make you feel good. He keeps going back to doing the same thing because that's what he's been doing for a long time. You have to think back. Was he like that before you met? in other word don't try to change him, that will never work. Love or like him for who he is or leave him and find exactly what you are looking for in a man.
2006-06-20 09:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me explain something to you, you can not expect a man to change for you. He has to change for himself and if you liked him for the person he was when you met him, then you knew what you was getting into. First, here's how to check to see if he is feeling you or stringing you along: Block his number from your home phone. Second, If you see him walk pass him without a word, if he calls you do not turn around or acknowledge him. Third, if he call never answer the first five calls. If he calls a 6 time plus, transfer it automatically to voice mail and make sure you put a song on there that explains a little something to him about your feelings.
2006-06-20 09:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by janaehotsista 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I know what you mean you tell him and he is like whatever.
And you want to tell him and you end up telling him its the last time bc your tired but guess what unless you show him that you really mean it he will get the point anyways if the guy really loves you he will come back it took mine two years until he realized what he lost bc trust me his friends are not always going to be there the way we are so girl teach him a lesson. Tell that fool to hit the road.
2006-06-20 09:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid of this guy and move on. He isn't going to change because he doesn't want to. Frankly, why should he if you keep taking him back. You are either going to have to deal with the way he is or leave him. Changing him is clearly not an option.
2006-06-20 09:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by rebelwitch80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this, but your guy is a loser. Drop him, it will not get better for you. Leave him before it is too late. Has he hit you yet? If not it will happen if you give him enough time. Run from him as fast as you can. It will only get worse. You do not deserve to be treated the way he is treating you,no one does
2006-06-20 09:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by soar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me and understand, Drugs are the scourge of mankind, They not only harmful to the human mind and body, But drugs have a tendency to destroy them. I am sorry to say that until he totally stops using drugs he will never be worth a penny that you can pick up off the street that you walk every-day. Do yourself a big favor and write him off and start over again with someone new. Now If you decide not to heed my advice then get ready to be drag in to depth of muck and mire of self-destruction.
2006-06-20 09:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that you're putting up with him? You should not put up with him disrespecting you. You need to know that you deserve better.
Don't try to mother him or save him. He's ultimately going to do what he wants to do. If he chooses to hang around low-lifes then that's on him, but if you choose to stay and allow him to mistreat you, then that's on you. People will only treat you in a manner that you demand from them. You need to raise the bar. Life is about choices. So far you have chosen to be with a man who doesn't honor you......choose different.
2006-06-20 09:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like this boy is under peer pressure to fit in, stay popular, be the man, whatever you wanna call it. He instead of impressing you he wants to impress his friends,but you know sometimes when we keep catching the same fish, throw it back, change the bait, and catch a better one, there are so many out there, you deserve better.
2006-06-20 09:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him ASAP! He obviousely doesn't care about you like you should be cared about so go out and find somebody who will and will treat you the way you should be treated. Stop wasting your time with that loser. He sounds like a lost cause to me.
2006-06-20 09:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by KittyluvR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋