We got in a huge fight sunday and things were said and stuff got broke. He told me that he was thru with me and the kids so I started to pack our bags and called my mom to come get me. He told me not to leave that we could work it out and I told him he has lied to me for the last time. So I left and tried to call him hours later and he didn't answer so I called his friends phone the next day and told him to have me to call him when he gets a chance that I came back home and he called me back and I told him that I was sorry for doing the things that I did. I feel bad about and I feel that it has tore a hole in our marriage. I left one time before and it didn't feel like this when I came back. I love my husband. I don't know how to fix this situation are how to make it like it was before. We been married for 5 years and 2 children. If anyone been thru this before how long did it take and how did you help to make it better.
2006-06-20 08:51:09 · 11 answers · asked by michelecmof4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I left a year ago but it was something stupid that I caught him doing I left this time so that I could cool off.
2006-06-20 09:00:20 · update #1
yes I been through (?) you don't exactly say. When we were only togerther 16 years he came home drunk again from being gone all day with his buddies (shawdow) and was going out again. Told me to get out. So the next day of course he was already gone first thing in the morning I packed up the children (3) 1yr to 5yr and went to a friends place that he didn't know.late that evening the girls wanted to talk to dad we call but of course he was at the bar could't figure out where we were he asked us to come home. after must though we drove the 2 hours back the girls asked him why he told me to get out he said he was mad but between us it took time to get things right
2006-06-20 09:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that good that you need to cool off but in situations like these mostly people take their cars and to somewhere to just relax a bit.. that's call cooling off... not packing bag and going to your mothers that's call i am done and thru with you i am leaving for good.... At least your husband has some sense... even though you guys fought said things etc he never asked you to leave in fact he told you to stay and that you will work things out... that means he is willing to work things out with you....
I have done the car thing, mean i just took my car went for a long drive felt better came home and we worked things out and things got better after that.... as for how long your situation will take to get better thats depends how much effect your willing to put into to make it better this time!
2006-06-20 16:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your husband and you both need to be honest with eachother. Tell him how sorry you are, but also tell him how you feel. You both need to figure out why you are fighting and hurting eachother. You should get into marriage counseling - a counselor will help to clarify things, break vicious cycles, and get your marriage back on the right track.
2006-06-20 15:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to fight. Time will make things better. Let him cool off. If he loves you he will call and and try to work things out with you.
2006-06-20 16:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by Youngstill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek a counselor and to work on your marriage. Tell him you want to go to marriage counseling with him. Do not go back to him until he agrees to this. Breaking things is not good for the kids to see or be around at all.
2006-06-20 18:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and most important...why did you fight to begin with. It sounds to me like you obviously had problems before...or you would not have left him once before this. If nothing is changing to stop you from fighting and leaving, why go back there?
2006-06-20 15:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Okkieneko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a therapist on your own. This is an abusive relationship and you are going to screw up your kids. You should set a goal to not call or speak with him until you have your own issues worked out.
2006-06-20 15:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by double0negitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you have plenty of paper plates on hand to throw so next time you have a fight you won't break the good china.
2006-06-20 16:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there should be an open communication between u two.. if u guys will separate,ur children will be the one greatly affected on it.
you need to talk and settle your differences and you need to tell
2006-06-20 16:08:53 · answer #9 · answered by weakest Link! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/6/1/article_01.htm
2006-06-20 15:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by designer401 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋