How many people think that homophobic men are like this because they aren't secure with their sexuality?

Answer 1

I agree - I'm straight and I know people have opinions and that's fine but I think homophobic people are really scared of who they are.

Answer 2

I disagree. I know some old guys who hate homosexuals, but it has nothing to do with their sexuality. They also hate cats, for no particularly good reason, it's just how they grew up.

Now, I have homosexual friends, but I do not support the liberalization of marriage laws to include homosexual marriage, because I believe it to be wrong and bad for society as a whole. It doesn't make be a homophobe or insecure.

The thing is, the homosexual agenda crowd and their advocates are fighting against stigmatization by turning around and stigmatizing those who oppose them as haters and/or sexually insecure. That's just mean-spirited and hateful and intolerant of others' beliefs. It is also the typical way to bypass having to tolerate and accept others' beliefs by labeling them as unworthy people who cannot possibly have valid positions.

For shame.

Answer 3

I believe that most straight men think that you are sick, however I agree that a few men who are homophobic might be this way because they aren't secure with their sexuality.

Answer 4

Yes. I think that most homophobic men are homophobic due to having problems exploring/expressing/processing their own sexual feelings, however, that does not mean that I think a man's homophobia always comes from having a deep fear that he himself is homosexual.

Sometimes, that is the case, of course, but other times, I think those frustrated sexual feelings are transferred into aggression because a man lives in a culture that teaches him to repress all aspects of his sexual being.

In America's Judeo-Christian/Puritannical religious culture, this is certainly the case, with males of all types being taught to fear their bodies and the bodies of others, being taught that sex is sinfull and self-pleasure is an abberance, etc.

This results in an abnormally high rate of men beating/raping/exploiting the sexuality of women, as well as men taking out homophobic aggression on other men, beating them, raping them, slandering them, etc.

I think we'd all be better off if we could come to accept the human body as natural, beautiful, and sacred (not in a religious sense, but in the way a new baby is sacred--fragile, full of life, needing compassion and protection), if we could see human sexuality as spanning a broad spectrum of behaviors/ideals/desires none of which (as long as they don't involve killing or the most harmfull extremes) are unnatural to the human condition, if we could celebrate the way in which we change over our lifetimes (so we wouldn't have to hide newly discovered desires).

Answer 5

Funny you should ask that. Recently in GQ magazine-which endorses acceptance of all people, like normal people should-published a segment about how in an experiment 4 out of 5 self-proclaimed homophobic men were significantly aroused when watching gay porn. Oh the Irony!!

Answer 6

I would agree that men who are homophobic are note secure with their sexuality and may also hide their insecurity behind religious and political conservatism.

Answer 7

Denial has been known to fuel homophobia. However, homophobia is also fuelled by religion, fear and misunderstanding. Some straights have a totally distorted view of gays.

A lot of homophobes don't know any homosexuals in their own personal circle of friends/acquaintances.

Answer 8

For sure!!!! The biggest homophobes I have known later turned out to be gay. 2 brother-in-laws

Answer 9

It's hard for me to say but in the end, hate is the big motivator. That is a learned emotion -- the byproduct of being exposed to such ignorance for likely all their lives.

Answer 10

Are you alright? Men who are straight, arent homophobic, its abhorrent to their souls what you guys are doing. It defiles the mind and body.

Answer 11

That's exactly why. Just like when men have big trucks to prove they're not gay. Why do they have to prove it? It's because they're insecure about their own sexuality.