My boyfriend just broke up with me after being together 1year and 8 months together. He says that when he went to San Fran. with his family he figures out that he didnt love me anymore. He is a Jehovas Witness and says that he wants to go straight with his reigion. I feel more mad because he had broken up with me bacause a rumor he thought was true. He called me to say sorry and we were back together. i gave him money so he could spend on the trip. Now a week later he says that he doesnt love me. I dont know if i should even try again to get to him or should i just move on and try to forget him. i feel like he used me for my body and my money. I really dont know what to do. So please give me advice on what should i do. Im thinking on leaving town for 1 week so i can get m y mind off of him and figure if I really want to be with him.
2006-06-20 08:34:51 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Another thing is that I think that in his religion when u get at a certine time have to be straight and that does mean not being with anyone because his brother had to do the same thing and said the same thing, that he didnt love his girl anymore. another thing is that i might be pregnant but i dont want to tell him until im sure if i am or not. Im afraid that if i tell him i might be that he will think im using that as an excuse to keep him with me. So thats why my sister and i think it will be a good thing if i go away for a while to see if he wants me he will call.
2006-06-20 08:47:29 · update #1
The "boyfriend" does not seem to be an actual Jehovah's Witness, but perhaps a person whose family are Witnesses. Jehovah's Witnesses do not tolerate extramarital sex, fraud, or abandoning pregnant common-law wives.
The questioner may benefit herself by learning about the teachings of Jehovah's Witnesses. While the benefits are eternal, there are important benefits even now to obeying godly standards in all things.
http://watchtower.org
2006-06-20 17:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take a pregnancy test. If it's positive and you plan to keep the child, he should know.
As for getting back together...
It's difficult to say. If he doesn't want to be with you, it will be difficult to make him stay. Or if he comes back only because you are pregnant, you may not be happy with him in the long term.
Religion can be an excuse to do something that someone wants to do anyway (i.e. break up with someone). But it's possible he is really feeling guilty that he is not keeping his religion, by having sex before marriage. Guilt can make people do strange things.
If you are a believer, I would suggest you pray and seek the peace of God. If you get back together, you will need time and effort to establish trust.
If you remain apart, I would suggest you wait before starting an intimate relationship with another gentleman. Men will delay commitment if they are successful at establishing a sexual relationship without making one. Even a promise of marriage is a little weak. If you really want to be sure, wait until you walk down the aisle in that white dress.
Your future husband will respect the fact that once you understood the meaning of the marriage commitment, you made a decision to wait for him.
Jim
2006-07-01 10:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by Calvin James Hammer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My favorite motto...what goes around comes around. You sound like a sweet person that is just getting taken advantage of! Delete his number, take everything down that reminds you of him, and move on! Get another job, hang out with close girlfriends or family...just do something to take up your free time. Cause once you are too busy, you will figure out yourself and what you truely want in a man. And that man will come in your life when you least expect him!
2006-06-20 08:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...... Sound fishy to me....... well...... Let him know that u might be Pregnant, but u dont want nothin got do with him........ U will call him and keep him updated but thats it........ He;ll get the point and Go on the trip Dont worry u'll have fun and hope fully meet someone that's good for u
2006-06-20 08:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what you mean by, "go straight with his religion." Reference to being gay? Either way, you need to move on. Anyone who leaves you twice, is ready for a real separation. Go on without him, it takes time, but is in your best interest. Take it like an adult, not a "lil girl".
2006-06-20 08:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by double0negitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about this a min. he came back to you, took money and left again. You KNOW the answer.
leave him, he's just using you.
2006-06-20 08:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was in your shoes, i would not even bother to go and visit him.He's not worth it.
2006-06-20 08:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by nancieke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋