Should I or Shouldn't I?

Question

See, this gurl, Denisse, that I work with who I have become friends with is messing around with this guy, Arsenio, that we work with. She has a baby and a boyfriend, Raliegh,(the baby's daddy). He has a baby and a girlfriend, Tiffany,(the baby's mammy). Both of their lovers are crazy as hell. Now being that Denisse is my friend I'm trying to advise her that what she and him are doing isnt right.

Another thing is that I've known Raliegh her boyfriend for 7 years now and me and him have always been cool. My thing is that when he finds out about them that he's gonna turn to me and Denisse's best friend, Dalynn, and ask 'Why didnt you tell me?' and we dont want that

Raliegh is going to find out sooner or later. But is it wrong for Dalynn and I to want to tell him? Should we even tell him or should we sort of give him clues so that he can get the big picture?

What's funny is that Raliegh will be at our job waiting on her to finish up BUT Denisse be in the back making out Sad uh?

Answer 1

wow!!!. I've been in this situation before. It's really about what u think is right. I mean some people prefer not to know becuase it'll hurt them even though there doing it to. as a friend u should try and talk to her and see if she wants to leave him first. I didn't tell the guy when i was in that situation and i wished that i did because he was sooo hurt that i didn't tell him. I thought it wasn't my business so i shouldn't get involved and it put a huge whole in our friendship. i regret it. Think about it like this if it was u would u wanna know???

Answer 2

Eeeew you are in a very difficult place for a friend. First thing I gotta say is your co-workers have created a nasty and explosive life altering mess that with or without your help is going to blow up in there face and they are not being very good friends to you by making you a part of it. If you want to do something about it know you will lose so called friends but I would proceed with caution maybe if you want to inform or drop hints you should have someone else that knows one side or the other that has a blabber mouth do the work and take the fall that way you are by no means involved otherwise leave it alone because they will get caught the truth always comes out sooner or later but as far as anyone asking you why you didn't say anything my advice as a good friend is"the best business is to mind your own business" because the guilty parties will deny it and somehow make you the bad guy and you will lose. A real friend doesn't get involved with affairs of the heart its a losing battle the best thing you can do is keep telling them they are only hurting themselves and there kids by what they are doing. Good luck.

Answer 3

That is a messed up situation ... there is no way to win so you best consider how to cut your losses. You value Raleigh as friend more than Denise values him as a boyfriend. You can be sure that he is going to be upset when he finds out what has been going on. So you better figure which one you want to keep as a friend because it is highly unlikely that you be able to stay friends with both of them. The best advice is in another answer here .... get another job and be prepared to possibly lose both of them as friends. I think that Denise has already written off Raleigh. She may try to blame someone else for being in her business when he finds out but the fault is with her. No matter what you do you are most likely gonna lose at least one friend. So which one is worth keeping? If it is Raleigh then you ought to tell him. He deserves better than this. But you are gonna get a sh*t storm over this no matter what you do.

Answer 4

Don't get involve with these losers. Tell them to keep their business to themselves and not get involve with you. Seriously, why are you even involve with cheating people who don't give a whit about other people's feelings and their babies? Tells you alot about their priorities. Says alot about you. Find another job, dear.

Answer 5

Call Jerry springer!!!!......you can be all on t.v!!!!Awesome