my husband is going away to iraq for 14 months in september and we've been trying to concieve before he goes. its not working!! WHY!!!!!
2006-06-20 07:51:53 · 10 answers · asked by lovely 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Hunny, you're trying too hard. When you make that you're primary focus (I don't why this happens but it does) you are less likely to concieve. Just relax and enjoy him before he leaves. Trust me, if you're not pregnant when he leaves, you'll get that way as soon as he comes home! By the way, you can get fertility pills at your local drug store, couldn't hurt! I got pregnant with my second child 2 weeks after my husband got back from Iraq. Also, if you need support while you're husband is gone, you are more than welcomed to e-mail me. Military wives have to stick together. Good luck and God bless!!!
2006-06-20 10:37:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for your angst. There's something called "Murphy's Law" which basically means that things happen opposite the way you think they should or opposite the way you are trying to make things work. There's little to do in most cases except to grin and bear it. Although, I would suggest that you see your doctor as this is a major concern for you.
As in most things in life, for example- concieving, as well as simply finding a life partner- things happen when you're not looking, as you already know. But there is a nice quote from a chinese spiritual book written long ago by a man named Lao-tzu- the book is called the Tao Te Ching and this quote is from the first passage:
"Free from desire, you realize only the mystery.
Caught in desire, you see only the manifestations."
Basically, this means that the more anxious you are about needing something, the more likely you are not to see the bigger picture. I don't know if you are on a spiritual path, but I believe that there is a reason for everything. You might not know the reason now, but I believe that there is a very logical, cosmic reason for what you are currently experiencing.
Just be strong and look within yourself and build a support system of people who care. Good luck!
2006-06-20 14:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by Realmstarr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know that either alot of people say that if your too eager its harder or stress does it too... my husband and i are trying to concieve a second child and its been 14 mths but it only took us 4 mths to concieve our daughter...but I would try Fertilaid its just a vitamin supp. ( my husband and I are both taking it) there has been alot of good reports about it.
2006-06-20 14:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only seems that way. When you aren't trying to get pg you will, of course, not notice that you aren't or why. When you start trying you are all of a sudden in tune with everything, paying attention to all the details, and it just seems to take forever.
Have you been to a doc to see if there are any problems? (hormones off balance, low sperm count, etc) Little things can lead to big problems.
I wish you all the luck!
2006-06-20 15:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by tigger062077 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man, thats sad he has to go and i can see why you want to get pregnant before he goes, so when he comes back hes got a family to come home to, you and the baby, but i have also been in the same situation, i cant seem to get pregnant, so your not alone!!go to the doctors see if theres anything they can do to imprrove your chances of concieving, good luck
2006-06-20 15:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because ur horny when u ovulate and when u dont ovulate and just have sed for a child and not pleasure then u create a harder situation on ur self dude just go with the flow not of ur period
2006-06-20 15:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's like watching a pot boil. You are paying attention to what you are doing... ergo monitoring the passage of time and the number of times that sexual intercourse has occurred.
Just laugh it off... the time will come when it comes.
2006-06-20 14:57:06 · answer #7 · answered by chemical_kenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Murphy's Law...if it can go wrong, it will...Just be patient. It may not be the right timing. If he's gonna be gone that long, it might not be best for you to have it by yourself now anyways...
2006-06-20 15:11:50 · answer #8 · answered by saved2600 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it as chasing butterflies.
2006-06-20 14:54:40 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpeachmummy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are trying to hard.. just relax and it will happen!!
2006-06-20 15:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by Heather H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋