i have two boys, one is step one is biological. they fight constantly. it seems they are trying to be the best of everything. the one to get most of dad's attention, the fastest, the strongest. they seem to make each other really upset most of the time. my step son mostly seems to be upset that we moved in and took time away from dad. i dont want him to feel bad, but i dont know how much is just normal boy stuff. what do you guys think?
2006-06-20 07:38:22 · 5 answers · asked by Blonda 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Want some bizarre advice...?
Let it be...
let them fight, compete, and always attempt to outdo the other...
Just keep your love, time, and attention equal and unrelated to the bickering.
Without having to know any particulars...it's tough for kids being without the other parent...but they are resilient and work it out.
Constantly interfering in their squabbles may lead to some unresolved issues they may harbor for life.
Let 'em fight - they'll resolve it...maybe instead of a "time out" in separate corners...they can take their time out in the same corner hugging each other.
...maybe instead of separate night-time rituals...they have unified night time where they say good night to the both of you...
although I'm not deeply religious...at night I say the Lords Prayer with all kids...we hold hands and say prayers before bed time.
That way, no one gets to count the time I spend with anyone else.
Special one on one time is done with cards...I deal out 5 cards to each child a week...each card represents 10 minutes and an activity...reading, biking, a walk, sitting in the garden, and fixing dinner...they can turn in their cards at leisure...but the cards don't get re-dealt until Sunday - and yes...I've done all 5 cards on a Monday.
Good luck - keep loving, stay fair, be patient.
2006-06-20 07:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by Warrior 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This Is normal I fight with my brothers all the time We fight to get attention
2006-06-20 14:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by wyatt c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the same question asked about 20 minutes ago
2006-06-20 14:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really hard for a child to adjust to those conditions...but its natural for them to have a competative strive in them...i think that aslong as you persist the matter and work with them and get out of that "bad guy" persona...cause thats kind of what your in when your dealing with a mans child with his real mother...you have to build your trust level up with him...dont worry...your probably doing a good job...just dont get frustrated or at least dont let them see that you are...
2006-06-20 14:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by lastofodyinbreed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty normal given the situation, hubby should try to keep things as even as he can.
2006-06-20 14:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tom H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋