do you agree that "it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all"?

Question

you see coz i used to agree with this BUT if you think about it surley it would be better to have never felt the joy of being in love than to have had it and lost it?
if you have never have it surley you cant truley no the "pain" of not having it.
am i making sence?

Answer 1

Well, the pain of losing love does suck, BUT to wholly be alive and experience everything one can in this world, one needs to experience the range of emotions-love, pain, sorrow, happiness, etc. etc. Granted, I am a bit of a philosopher, but I think having lived a full life would at least be some compensation for the heartbreak. Also, unless perhaps the person you lost was your soulmate, love will probably come again. And, if you lose your soulmate, IMHO, you will probably be reunited with them someday, even if it is in another place (ie the afterlife) or lifetime. Besides, the love remains forever, even if they don't.

Answer 2

I almost lost the love of my life a few times & I've thought that if I had never experienced that then I wouldn't know the pain that goes along with almost losing him, but then on the other hand I would have never known the joy that comes along with loving him. Those butterflies in my stomach when I see him & that uncontrollable smile when I hear his name makes up for the pain I've felt when I almost lost him & are stronger feelings than the pain. Love is too important to wish to have never experienced it.

Answer 3

Love is a very strange emotion because it encompasses so many different abstract concepts and packages it into one little tiny word. This question might be easier to answer if it were phrased differently:

"Is it better to feel happiness mixed with pain, or not to feel at all?"

This question addresses a fundamental issue of the human experience. It begs the question "How to do we define our lives?"

Simply put, we define our lives through experiences; more accurately, we define our lives through a series of experiences that have evoked emotions directly affecting future experiences. We live, we don't simply exist, we live. Living is not simply eating, breathing, drinking, and sleeping. Living is the act of exploring and interacting with oneself and the world. When ever you undertake an endeavor like that, it's as though you're lighting off fireworks; sometimes they go up and explode leaving you with an incredible sense of awe, sometimes they explode on the ground and give you a nasty burn. That's life.

"To never have loved at all" implies deliberately denying yourself an experience; this is a concept entirely antithetical to life. If you want to live, it certainly IS better to have loved and lost.

Answer 4

first i prefer to say that existence with out love has no which ability .. i agree that it s better appropriate to have loved and lost .than have never loved in any respect.. in my view and from studies i see that we are coming to this existence once so why no longer fallen in love or no longer feeling this large feeling even although you've lost it travis you may be grateful reason you've been loved by ability of someone and also you loved someone ,and perchance you lived the happiest time on your existence ,i understand at the same time as it s lengthy gone it hurts better ,yet you may undergo in thoughts how a lot maximum appropriate moments and chuffed thoughts you've lived ..once you've been in love ..no matter if we lost our like that's going to be continuously the most appropriate memory for us ..

Answer 5

Are you making sense? Well, better punctuation and spelling would make the question easier to read. We are all using English, I believe.
It's an old question, by which I'm not castigating anyone for asking it, but it's one which has been asked millions of times over, by countless men and women. Were the moments of pure joy that turned my life over, worth these years, maybe decades of pain? How elated can you feel in love, and how much can that balance a crushing loss, that tears at your soul? And sometimes, the afflicted have been known to feel that if the love from their partner toward them has died, they feel worse than if the partner actually had, or it would be better they themself had died, so overwhelmed and broken are they, to have become something that their love no longer values enough to care for anymore.
These are the very questions of life, and we may all have different answers for them.

Answer 6

No it is better to have loved and lost. Like in my case, I have a lot of possible love connections wherein I regretfully didn't partake just because I know that it wouldn't work out. It is better to have loved someone and lost it than to forever ponder what could've happened if you had a relationship with someone. Also, losing someone helps people to be stronger relationship-wise.

Hope this helps even a little. Good Luck!

Answer 7

I've only been in love once and thankfully I'm still with him!
I would never want to loose him, however, I would never give
up the memories I have of him even if I were to loose him.
So, although I don't speak from experience, I would say that
it IS better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all!

As my mum used to say,
"You can't take the good without the bad!"

Answer 8

true, but imagine never having felt anything so wonderful? better to of have felt what it is to love and be loved than to never know at all. and although lost love is painful, the feeling is what love is all about...imagine never having felt it? Life won't be the same now would it?

Answer 9

It's true, I think.

If you've been through the experience it makes all the sense in the world.

It's like asking "Would you rather be clever or stupid even if the knowledge is painful?"

Ignorance may be bliss, but who wants to be an idiot?

Answer 10

i have loved and lost many times and although the pain remains in some degree with each lost love ive had . i dont regret a single one i may regret the outcome but i learned lessons from each and am a better man for it