I have this relationship with a married man, I never bother him for nothing, and I also know everything about him and his wife,but I never called him at home and also I try no to talk about her when were together...He say's I'm a wonderful mistress...But really I want him to be divorced already...We've been together for more than 3 yrs....and he got until October of this year to make a decision...I never ask him if he loves me...But he always telling me that you never know what the future has prepared for you...
2006-06-20 06:30:44 · 11 answers · asked by Mulatta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well you can wait till October and you will still be in the same situation. if you let him get away with this for 3 yrs then he has no plans on leaving her. are you gonna ruin your chances of being with someone or ever having a marriage or real relationship of your own because love a man who lusts you?
2006-06-20 06:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by southerncmfrt1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he divorce his wife. He has the best of both worlds. he's home with his kids, has no court mandated support payment and if he isn't having sex with his wife, well he has all that with you. Another thing to think of is: If he is such a cheater, what's he gonna do if he leaves to be with you. Do you think he'll stay faithful? Heck, I'd bet if he did leave for you he would still be spending a ton of time with the ex-wife and kids and the situation would just get reversed with the ex now being the mistress. Plenty of fish in the sea., throw your line back out to see if you catch something better?
2006-06-20 06:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he may not be leaving his wife. You have been his "mistress" for 3 years. Why should he, he has his cake and ice cream. You can either stay with him until the kids are all grown and require no child support, or maybe his wife will die or you wise up and move on to someone that can give you a full meal deal...
2006-06-20 07:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a court that did that. It was a case where the mother went to work and left the husband to watch the 3 kids. The husband makes a booty run while the kids were asleep. The oldest (10) wakes up, and realizes no one is home. She called the police. The police came and took the kids away and turned them over to social service. They had to pay huge fines and the judge ordered them to stay together if they wanted to keep the kids. She wanted a divorce immediately. They are still together today, and they are a better couple than before.
2016-03-15 12:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by Michele 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself your a mistress. Your not the wife and 9 times out of 10 you will never be the wife. I think you know that but your trying to hold on to a string of hope. Why leave his wife to be with soley you when he can have both? Using the kids is your way of making excuses to make yourself feel better. If he's cheating with you, he will also cheat on you. Your obviously not that special to him if he's still with his wife. He's in it for the sex. If emotion was involved you'd be the wife with the kids. Your not, your just his mistress. I'm sure you deserve better so find someone who puts you number one. Move on......Think about it.
2006-06-20 06:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by indyanbeauti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember: He's been cheating on his current wife with you for 3 years. He has no intention of divorcing her! The child support could come in to play in certain states, like Texas where he'd get stuck for a bundle. Tell him he has a choice to make: You or her. And until he makes up his mind and takes some action, tell him to go in the closet and get ahold of himself! He's playing you, stop him now!
2006-06-20 06:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by jrsabbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive seen your 360 page and you are not a bad looking woman at all, why would you just want to be content with being a mistress, it should seem obvious that he is not going to leave his wife. have some pride in yourself and seek out a relationship with a non-married man. Unless of course that is what you want.
2006-06-20 06:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him if he's planning on leaving his wife, if it's not done by October then move on. It's hard to leave your wife and kids even if you don't like the wife that much.
2006-06-20 06:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three years and still the mistress? Not good sweetie. I did the whole mistress thing and my heart is ripped into pieces. Time to move on. You dont want to be a wonderful mistress, you want to be a wonderful girlfriend or wife. Good luck and hang in there.
2006-06-20 07:08:38 · answer #9 · answered by Waiting2Exhale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY WOULD YOU SUBJECT YOURSELF AND BE WITH A MARRIED MAN CANT U FIND SOMEONE THAT IS SINGLE 3 YEARS AND HE HASNT LEFT WELL SWEETY HES NOT WHY BUY THE COW WHEN U CAN GET THE MILK FOR FREE YOU ARE FREE P------- TO HIM HES NOT LEAVING HIS WIFE FOR U SO LEAVE HIM ALONE THE FUTURE IS HE'LL DUMP U WHEN HE FINDS SOMETHING YOUNGER AND TENDER AND DUMBER THAN U HE LOOKS AT U AS A FREE LAY NO HEADACHES HE CAN LAY UP WITH U AND GO HOME TO HIS WIFE AND KIDS AND TELL U ALL THE BULL---------- AND U THINK ITS TRUE WAKE UP
2006-06-20 06:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋