I received an invitation to attend the 25th reunion of my high school class. I was teased a lot in high school and it went beyond name calling, etc. I had food thrown at me and damage done to my parents home. A rumor was also spread about me and drug use that school administrators believed. I did not find true friends until I joined the Navy which led to me staying in for 20 years.
Now after 25 years and because my siblings who live in my home state gave away my address my classmates who abused me through high school want me to join them. I probably won't go as I live in California and the flight will be expensive. I am thinking about writing a letter to my class letting them know how their abuse affected me and asking them not to include me in any future class activities. I also think about going just to boast about the fact I am retired military and that I married a beautiful woman (There were also rumors that I was gay). Thanks in advance for the help.
2006-06-20 06:25:02 · 7 answers · asked by Richard C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I didn't have it as rough as you did, but I never fit in in high school. I just did my own thing, had a very few friends, and ignored the rest. I wasn't really interested in going to a reunion and didn't go the the first couple. My wife went to one of her reunions and had a lot of fun so I tried going the the next one of mine that came around. It was just like school. I still didn't fit in. I left early and didn't worry about it.
If you have reservations about going, don't go. If seeing the people who treated you so badly would bring back bad memories, don't go. I wouldn't go just to brag or show off, though many people would.
It sounds like you have a good life now. Living well is the best revenge. Let it go at that.
2006-06-20 06:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yee gads woman, that should make me experience previous. because it truly is, i'm no longer there yet. My type had it truly is 10 year some years in the past, and that i completely did no longer flow to that the two. i replace into component of the class cupboard and that i wasn't even contacted to plot it ... AND our type sponsor wasn't even notified of the making plans till he gets an invitation. Are ya kidding me? the area that they had it wasn't undesirable, yet with the aid of adverse making plans, basically approximately no person confirmed up. and that i do no longer blame you for no longer desirous to flow ... for a 25 year reunion, you ought to have it someplace different than an entire craphole .... deliver 'em a photograph of your Beaver with a observe "that's what i think of roughly you and your stinkin' reunion" HA that'll keep you from getting invited to the 30 or 50 year reunion or maybe though it truly is they have after the 25 LOL. xoxo ?
2016-10-31 04:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience in high school, unfortunately.
I have decided that I will not be going to any of my reunions. This is not because I so extremely dislike the jackasses who will be there...It is because I would want to go and have fun, and I know that I wouldn't enjoy myself while I'm there.
I have excellent friends now, who love me and accept the amazing person I really am. I choose to spend time with them, instead, since I know for sure that I'll enjoy their company.
With regard to the letter, I'm not certain how that would help, except to perhaps allow you to get it off your chest. For one thing, probably only one person will see it (probably the secretary on the reunion committee). For another, they can't change what happened in the past, and they're not likely to write you back just to apologize. I know that there are things I did in my youth that I shouldn't have done. Perhaps its best to assume that your classmates realize the same about themselves, and give them the forgiveness that will allow you to let go.
Good luck with your decision!
2006-06-21 08:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go BECAUSE OF THE ABUSE. I think it would be great for you and would help you begin healing. It's been 25 years, and that's a really long time since that stuff happened. You could be passing up an opportunity to receive appologies from those who abused you. Also, I don't think these people would go out of their way to track you down if they didn't have good intentions. Let go of the past and begin the healing process. At least you can say you tried..
2006-06-20 06:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Candy Cane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would assume these people now in their forties would be past doing the same thing and would be all apologies. However, its not integral to your future enjoyment or life that you rehash those old wounds. So, the choice is purely yours but I see no harm in it.
2006-06-20 06:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by joejoethefunky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU DON'T WANT TO GO THEN SEND THEM A BLOWN UP PICTURE OF YOURSELF IN UNIFORM, AND A PICTURE OF YOU AND YOUR FAMILY . SEND A LETTER ALONG WITH THE PICTURES EXPLAINING YOUR LIFE UP TO NOW , 20 YRS IN THE NAVY ,MARRIED ? YRS,? CHILDREN. AND ASK THEM TO DISPLAY THESE PICTURES AND LETTER ON THE REUNION BULLETIN BOARD . I WOULD NOT GIVE THEM THE SATISFACTION OF KNOWING WHAT THEIR ABUSE DID.
2006-06-20 06:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
srew them.....go and show them what kinda man u really are!!
2006-06-20 06:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by BTB 10/04/08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋