I'll admit I'm quite camp and my favorite band is the scissor sisters. Help me! I'm cursed!
2006-06-20 06:20:49 · 51 answers · asked by g 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I was 5 when i knew, you just do!
I feel you are born this way, and it doesn't matter at what age you discover it...
i have a blog you might want to look at...
http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=61960233&blogID=124596866&MyToken=2f94253e-aae9-49bb-87e1-4c71d75cf19e
2006-06-21 03:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by Kishue 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I know im a lesbian, however I think it all applies although technically boys mature slower than girls. I did not know until I was 15-16 and even then I did not feel ready to act upon it until I was 18. You really need to give yourself time to grow and develop your mind in so many ways. A little bit of advice though make sure you understand yourself first before you start dragging other people into it as it can get emotionally draining with others involved let alone still trying to work it all out yourself. Be happy with yourself whatever you do you are an individual with so much before you and if you do decide this route is for you remember that Gay and Straight are just labels we are all individuals and the only thing that separates Gay and Straight is who we love and care for.
2006-06-22 09:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really need to decide right now? I'm 22 but already I feel like my sexuality has changed many times and still continues to do so.
The fact that you are considering the possibility that you are gay probably means that you have experienced some kind of same-sex attraction... but as for liking the scissor sisters, that just shows a flair for the extravagant and dramatic, which has nothing to do with sexual orientation at all.
You sound like a person who is self-aware and ready to seriously think about themselves, which are good qualities. But don't overanalyse, you will fall in love with someone one day, and that will help you understand yourself more.
Just relax, it's not bad being gay; you get a bit of prejudice, but who doesn't? You might upset your family, but nobody ever truly lives up to their family's expectations - everyone has to rebel.
I know that when you are a teenager you just want to blend into the crowd, there is so much peer pressure and your hormones make you feel crappy and there is an urge to conform. But being gay doesn't make you that different at all, it only determines who you are attracted to. And I bet there's lots of other non-heterosexual students at your school, they just don't realise it yet, or like you, are unsure and don't want to say something they might regret. One day you'll realise how many gay people there are.
If you are camp then that is your personality; you have to learn to accept it, then learn to love it. Camp is so culturally fashionable at the moment (note the immense popularity of the scissor sisters).
The only really bad thing about being gay is the situation you are in right now - you're just eleven, and you're going through a period of self-discovery that we've all been through, but it would enrage so many people if they thought we were guiding you throguh it; it is so risky talking to teens about homosexuality; people assume you are trying to corrupt or seduce them. Just believe me when I say that this will teach you some important skills in self-analysis, self-acceptance, independence and confidence, and that the journey will make you a stronger person, whatever you decide you are.
Be safe, and don't ever let anyone talk you into doing something that you do not feel 100% comfortable with. You don't need to have sex yet; you don't need to actually have sex to discover your orientation; it's much more of an emotional thing than that.
MODIFICATION:
Why are so many people, who imply that they have no experience of same-sex attraction, giving answers to this question such as 'you can't be born gay, it's just a choice'? What makes them think they know how this feels?
2006-06-20 09:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Alex should be working 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that at 11 you should have other things on your mind.....i mean dont stress about it as you get older it will get easier and come naturally.....its ok to be gay but i think at 11 its very common to have mixed feelings and be unsure.....just stay open to anything and remember when it comes time for a relationship its all about how you feel about that person and the way they treat you no matter their gender....becides in a womans eyes all GREAT men have various feminine qualities and on the flip side a gay man is a womans best friend. also you have to remember that we as a society are much more accepting in exploration to find yourself....just remember that you are still very young and i know that thats not what you want to hear but from experience your understanding of various things WILL definitely change as you grow and have new experiences....JUST BE YOURSELF AND DO WHAT IS NATURAL FOR YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL....and i know how hard that can be at 11 for various reasons......but you are your own best friend and must always be true and honest to yourself...........YOU are the most important person in your life and cannot be or do good for anyone untill you are those things...................GOOD LUCK and remember DONT STRESS
2006-06-20 06:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by alss03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was pretty much sure I was gay when I was 9, and a virgin till I was 21.
don't you love folks who think humans are straight by default, and that one must be turned from the path to be gay.
Or better yet, you can't be gay until you've had gay sex, no matter that you've been lusting after your cute boy next door for your whole childhood, dreaming of getting married to him, but you are het from day one. Morons.
And your psychology degree comes from what, a cereal box?
Fine, I'll say this much. you may be gay, you may not. do what interests you. you may be camp, so what? just be you, or you'll regret every moment you try to behave differently just for the feelings of IDIOTS who believe everything their stiff, red state preacher man tells them.
If you're born gay, you're supposed to end up living as a gay individual. anything less is a CRIME AGAINST NATURE. Celibacy? Been there. Dumb that.
Trying to be a loving partner to someone you're not meant to be married to? Wrong for you, LYING to them.
2006-06-20 07:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by tkdeity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you go around thinking this way you will end up trying your luck and you may find yourself having a bit of a shock
It's quite normal for someone of your age to think about there sexuality, and even experimenting with sex, if i was you i would not worry about it there's nothing wrong being gay, but when your a bit older and your with a girl, well just wait and see, but what ever just give yourself time, don't rush in to things, and remember safe sex.
2006-06-20 06:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by ringo711 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe how many people on here are forcing their beliefs, and they are extremely ignorant beliefs. you are 11 years old, and there are going to be many experiences which will help confirm your sexuality. some people are lucky and know from a young age whether they are gay or straight, and some are unfortunate and dont. you dont go looking for your sexuality, well not at age 11 anyway, your experiences slowly open your eyes, when your hormones develop further, they will guide you. until then, chill out and enjoy other stuff.
Good luck to you :-)
2006-06-21 00:32:28 · answer #7 · answered by softly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're only 11, why are you worrying about your sexuality just yet? Your childhood should be the best and most worry free period of your life. WHile I realise that you are at a stage in your life where lots of physical and emotional change is going on, try not to worry about your sexuality for at least another couple of years, when you are at the point of dating, and you have a better idea of who you are, and how you identify yourself. Good luck
2006-06-20 06:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Eleanora 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure that you can, nor should you even try to worry about that now. At 11, you've yet to experience puberty and the rage of hormones that soon awaits you.
Be who you ARE. Time will eventually tell you where your sexual orientation lies.
The teen years are hard enough without giving yourself a label prematurely.
Gay, straight or in between. You will know in a few years.
2006-06-20 06:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by Lori A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are into guys it is not the end of the world. You can still lead a full and happy life. Just don't worry about it and for Gods sake don't come out to anyone. Keep it to yourself till you are older, you may just be going through a stage. (no I am not sure I believe that one either but who knows) You need to wait until you are able to take care of yourself before you come out in case your family goes ballistic. Also the stigma is not pleasant. There are many different brands of homosexual so you may not even need to come out. you may not even be gay you might be g0y (do a yahoo search). I would send you to the main g0y site but there is nudity there and I would not want to be responsible for corrupting you. You might be like me and just a bisexual and if that is the case you don't need to come out until you meet a nice guy that you want to be intimate with and want to be in a relationship with and you also want to do that publicly. Wait and see how your life develops. You have your whole life ahead of you and you will discover the many joys God has made in it. You will have temptations and desires and you will have disapointments learn from them let them shape you to become a man you will be proud of. Becoming a person is so much more then finding out what gender you are attracted to. You have so much time to discover what flavor of sexuality you truly are so dont rush it. Please try to enjoy being a kid. Kids today seem hell bent to rush to grow up but please just stay a kid as long as you can. Explore friendships and don't be in such a hurry to find out the answer to your questions God will open it up to you in his time.
2006-06-20 06:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not gay. There is no such thing as being born "gay". And, by the way, it is not a "gay" lifestyle. It is a lifestyle doomed to emotional turmoil, disease and an early death. Don't listen to the 2% percent of the population that insists that everyone accept their abnormality. You will be the happiest if you REMAIN what you were born to be and live a normal lifestyle attracted to the opposite sex. If you feel drawn to the same sex, fight off those feelings and realize that you can resist that abnormal attraction, just the same way we resist the urges we get to be violent with someone who angers us. The attraction to the same sex is not something you were born to, like the color of your hair.
2006-06-20 06:28:16 · answer #11 · answered by GAC 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋