2006-06-20 06:10:27 · 8 answers · asked by sree 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey dude. been there. unfortunatly there's no quick fix. you could always try the "one night stands" and trying to lay every woman u meet, but thats definitly NOT the best way and not many woman go for it anyway. instead of trying to drop into a life where everything is one big numbing blur where one day runs into the next, take hold of the new life u have and make it the best it can be. I know its not easy man, but its all u've got.
1)Accept it.
Its never easy and often is the hardest part of this whole process. Woman have a funny little mechanism deep inside, that controls who they fall for and who they don't. Example: You see beautiful women with seemingly "less than standard looking guys" on a regular basis. Sure they could have the CK model or the good-looking rich guy, but for some reason unknown to man, the dude mentioned above kicks that little mechanism into overdrive.
2)Focus (hard to do, i know)
Understand that just because the woman in your life chose the "other guy", doesn't mean you've lost it all. Take a look at yourself, your life, be honest with what u see. Find things your good at and start to refine them, find things your not to good at and work on them, and lastly, get into a new hobby. A sport, an instrument, something to get into and enjoy. These actions will not only fill your time, but with some work, you and others will start to see a difference. This will heighten your self-esteem but will also give you a re-newed energy to keep working.
3)Start Slow
Dont be looking for romance or a deep relationship.Try to find some lady friends, women who you can talk to occasionaly and hang out with on a saturday night. You'll be suprised to find that those new hobbies you've picked up ie; instrument, sport, will help attract women to you, not because they feel sorry for you. It's nice to know that not all woman will hurt you and this is the perfect way to prove that to youself. I know, you're thinking that its not possible to be just friends.Well, If this thing goes farther , let it be her who initiates it, otherwise just sit back and enjoy your new friends.
Really man, there's no real proven way to get over someone. These are just a few things that worked for me. I drifted thru life for about 2 years before i realized that life doesn't stop for us, so we better get all we can from it before its gone. I'm now a seargent in the U.S. Army and i am engaged to the most wonderful woman a guy could ever ask for. its been a long road dude, but its been an experience that changed me for the best. Just take a hold of what u got, you'll be suprised what you can turn it into.
2006-06-20 08:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by maintdawg 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, yet this isn't a black and white situation. you're saying you 2 were "mutually for 15 years" ok. Does that recommend you've been married for 15 years? Or, purely friends that sleep mutually, and percentage a house? Yeah, yeah. i understand. lengthy time period courting is like marriage,. and perchance you 2 are previous marriage. yet, i'm previous formed. i do not settle for some thing except a wedding ceremony, as being "like" marriage. both way, what you may do is both settle for that he will save fooling round, or end the courting.
2016-10-14 08:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm am going threw the same thing. I think you need to go to the gym every time your home alone, just start working out you'll feel better little by little.There will also be many other girls there and you will start to see that one will be for you .
2006-06-20 06:16:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time heals all wounds. There are more fish in the sea. The woman that is right for you is out there, it just isn't your time yet... I will happen. Just start doing things you like and the new woman one will run into you in the future.
2006-06-20 06:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be on the same situation,,,,
we got seperated for 3 yrs and i never go out on a date,, be on a relationship and accept suitors until i met this guy from the net months ago,,,
he made me realize how wonderful i am,,,
dear,,, if you love her still,,, do ur best to win her back,,, and if she really dont love you anymore,, well,, God has His own reasons,,, she might not be the right girl for you,,,
God will send you the right lady who deserve your love!!!
be patient,,,
join me waitin for the right person who we could spend the rest of our lives with!!!!
take care and God bless!!!
l_e_a_h_02@yahoo.com
2006-06-20 06:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by l_e_a_h_02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop thinking about her and move on with your life.. thats the only way to come out of depression.
2006-06-20 06:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont waist your time on a person who does'nt love you you'll find some one else
2006-06-20 06:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know the sayin'...Let it go if she does come back she was meant to be w/ you. Otherwise...Move on.
2006-06-20 06:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by Karen L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋