I am in a "civil" marriage. Not much love involved anymore. Great father. Can't leave for kids sake. I'm in love with a co-worker. I think he likes me too. He's married also. I flirt with him sometimes. He flirts back. I don't know if I should go the next step.
2006-06-20 06:07:36 · 17 answers · asked by Secret A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should take the time to examine your relationship with your current husband. Don't move into another relationship with some you only "think" likes you as well. I'm sure you're aware of the consequences of leaving your current marriage. Maybe you and your husband should go on a weekend vacation together, no kids, no co-workers. If there is any love to be found, this will help you find it. If no sparks fly, then maybe you should consider therapy or something. But be open with your husband, the last thing you want to do is keep secrets. And definately don't leave your family for another man so suddenly. You can't bounce in and out of relationships. The grass isn't always as green as it looks on the other side. If you're considering divorce for a married man who's also flirting with you, you should investigate why he is flirting with you, when he is also married. he cound be a big time cheater, and you wouldn't want to end up with a man like that, he'll probably just end up cheating on you.
2006-06-20 06:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by LissyLou 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Finish one thing before you start another. Don't get involved with this co-worker if you are still married. You'll just end up in a big mess.
You say you can't leave your husband for the kid's sake----well, do you think you would doing your kids any service by getting involved with a co-worker?
This co-worker doesn't love you, anyway. It wouldn't last and would create a whole bunch of problems for you.
If you're truly not happy in your marriage, then that's what you have to deal with. Isn't it better for your kids to go through a divorce than to live in a household where their mom is not happy and doesn't love their father? Kids can sense this.
2006-06-20 06:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by revjeffpsychic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR first step would be to get out of the "civil" relationship you are in if you are no longer in love with the man. Having children with someone doesn't mean you should stay together, and if you were thinking about the sake of the children you wouldnt be trying to get involved with another man. Your being selfish and you want to add cheater to the mix too. Get a damn grip and leave that married man alone. Concentrate on your relationship and decide to give it spark or leave altogether before you bite off more than you can chew...Get it? Got it? GOOD!!!
2006-06-20 06:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking of yourself. Think about all the lives you will destroy if you go the next step. You need to concentrate on work and not use your company time for pleasure. Just because he flirts back doesn't mean that he is interested in you. Maybe he's being polite. He has to work with you. What you see as flirting maynot be flirting at all. You sound bored go find something better to do. Like taking care of your kids.
2006-06-20 06:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it at flirting no point in destroying his marriage just because you're not happy in yours.. I would suggest a divorce if your more content to cheat at least find a single man no need to ruin so many other peoples lives besides if your married co worker has a wife like me it may be the last mistake you ever make if you choose to sleep with someone Else's husband
2006-06-20 06:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! you are about to make the worst mistake of your life if you continue to pursue this dead end fling. if your are just doing some harmless flirting and you feel that you can leave it at that, then go ahead. if he really wants you he'll break up with his wife and you should do the same with your husband. staying with your husband is only teaching your kids that its okay to stay in a relationship even though the love is gone and you're unhappy.
2006-06-20 06:14:33 · answer #6 · answered by southerncmfrt1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get fresh in the parking lot of your job with him, so that the security cameras catch it all. A couple did that where I work and it seemed to work out great for them when they were fired and all.
If nothing else, dont start a relationship at work. That's been my rule and I've never been burned by it.
And oh yeah, you made a vow.
2006-06-20 06:16:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Secret *,
Question for you,
- do you really mind if your husband cheats on you?
Getting back to your current situation
you are in 'LOVE' with your co-worker.
how committed are you in your 'LOVE'.
Lets say a situation, you divorce this man and let go off your kids.
he divorces her wife and you two get married. (or live-in)
Now, he may well turn-out to be the same as your husband or worse your feelings may well subside over time.
will you still be in love with him?
Cheers,
Gyaan Guru
2006-06-20 06:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by Gyaan Guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your next step should be DIVORCE!! What is wrong with you?? Just get a divorce and become a statistic. It's people like you that are causing the high divorce rate in this country.
2006-06-20 06:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend having nothing to do w/the coworker. Your marriage, at this point, can still be saved. I wouldn't advise you to continue on with this MARRIED guy. Leave him to his wife, and you should go back to your husband.
2006-06-20 06:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋