I'm 4 months pregnant with twins, I'm already an emotional roller coster and my husband and I have five kids between the two of us. My 27 yr old sister lives with my mom, but likes my place better and has been here for the last 2wks. She is exactly the type of woman my husband usually goes for, and I'm feeling a little insecure. He has mistakenly called me her name twice already, once why telling me he loves me. At the beach this past weekend, I wasn't feeling up to walking through all the sand to get to the ocean late one night, so my husband and my sister go without me, granted my 11yr old daughter went with them. My husband is a good Chritian man who has reassured me that he would never cheat on me, and he thinks that my thoughts about this are petty. He wants her to stay with us because he feels that I could use the companionship while I'm not working. The thing is, I have let her live with me in the past, and my ex ended up having sexual feelings for her. Please, what should I do?
2006-06-20 06:00:22 · 35 answers · asked by candy0813 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry, I mistyped the word Christian. To everyone who thinks my sister is a whore, she is not. She just flirts naturally, just like I do. However, I am worried that my husband use to think we looked nothing alike, and even said that she was not that attractive when he first met her. That was because we caught her on a bad day. Since staying with us, she has dropped some weight, and keeps her hair and makeup done. He told me last night that he thinks that "Now, I see that you and your sister do look alike, and you both act alike also". That statement worries me, but he makes me think that I"m just jeolous, and that all this is petty, which make me mad at him! My ex and my sister use to tell me I was crazy, jealous and making things up while all the while they both knew that my fiance was doing nasty things in front of her, and giving her money without my knowledge. I didn't find any of that out until two years and a baby later, when my OTHER sister told me.
Thanks for answering.
2006-06-20 06:23:09 · update #1
say no you have gone through it once dont be stupid and let it happen again! tell your sister and husband you love them but NO... you have enough people in the house and you dont want more she can come over and visit you while your husbands at work! good luck with twins my brother has 1 year old twins he just had another thursday june 15th
2006-06-20 06:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Caylee's Mommy 2 · 9⤊ 3⤋
Girl you really have some trust issues. and believe noone can say I will never do that cause we all will and if she has done this before why did you let her back in your house. I would tell her I give you some time to get your stuff and find a place for you to stay. I mean what other companionship do you need you have your kids. She can always come and visit when the both of you are there. You should have never let them go walking to the beach even with your daughter as a companion. I mean try to do everything possible for him not to think about cheating on you.If you dont he will.All man will take the opportunity if they have it specially when you say your sister is your husband's type.
2006-06-20 06:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u'r 6th sense is going crazy then maybe u should listen..... to it, dont put it off just because it's u'r sister...... let her know that u want to go threw this experiance on u'r own and that If u do need her u will let her know also tell u'r husband the same thing and althought he think u might need the HELP , u've already have u'r own kids and u know that u dont need help, But that u want this all to u'r self a christian man knows that when you get married it's just about U'r wife , Kids and him self ...... No where in the bible does it say U will get married "become 1" and also have a sis in law live with you........
so take care and good luck
2006-06-20 06:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christians are human and will cheat to dont be blinded by a label. If your sister is fine and you are not you better watch out. Your husband may be fantasizing about her and the longer she is there the more likely the opportunity will present its self. Just tell her that she has to leave and blame it on the pregnancy later woman do that kind of thing all the time.
2006-06-20 06:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by liberal hater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart!!! Tell her No. I understand she is family and all. But you have to much on your plate. Your husband being a christian doesn't mean anything. There are married men cheating on their wifes all the time!! With little boys, grown men, little girls.etc. Don't you watch DateLine on NBC?? I am just putting it out there. You just got married and you need to focus on your family and kids! Your home should be free of all drama!! That includes family which can be the worse of all kind.
Do not get into a "Jerry Springer" type situation. You can avoid this if you just say no!!
2006-06-20 06:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by Wonder Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but if she's 27 and doesn't have a place of her own then to bad for her. She is obviously doing something that is not right if your husband is calling you her name. She's to much on his head, she might be your sister but everyone for themselves... if you know what i mean. Think about yourself and the child you are carrying. Speak up and tell her that you appreciate her trying to be there for you, but that you and your husband need to bond right now more because of your pregnancy and you need his emotional support. If you stay quiet, nothing ever is going to happened. Good luck!
2006-06-20 06:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 27 she should have her own place by now...and if there is already casual flirting between them...then neither one of them can be trusted together...he's already calling you her name...that is called a "Freudian slip" and he is really thinking about her...I think you should tell her to step back and stay away from your man...having her live with you is just going to cause more problems...don't do it girl...you already have a full house with 5 kids and 2 on the way...it's not worth it...you should really think about this and don't let her manipulate you...that's what is sounds like she is doing...she is not going to do anything but aggravate your pregnancy...you gotta put your foot down...
2006-06-20 06:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by j_nelle_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my feelings are that if your husband is a good christian man, then dont worry about it. If nothing else, she can help with your rediculous family. And you can tell your sister how you feel about this. Hopefully you two are close enough to have this conversation with each other. You need to look at her like someone who can help you and befriend you not like someone who is trying to be a homewrecker. The fact that your husband has called you her name is not something to concern yourself with. A study found that guys that called someone they love by someone elses name were actually only doing it because they were confident and relaxed with thier loved one. Do you want your husband confident and relaxed with you or always careful about what he says just so you dont get pissed off at him?
2006-06-20 07:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by alienorgy69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her straight away how you feel. she is your sister after all and I am sure she will understand. and if she doesn't understand then her intentions of coming to stay with you will become clear. then just tell her to leave from your house. if your husband interferes just tell him that it is between you and your sister and that you have five kids who will be enough to keep you company instead of your sister. keep your mind free and don't think a lot. this may affect your unborn babies. act sensibly when there is still time. I wish you all the best. take care. God Bless.
2006-06-20 06:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by sudjenni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, you just got married and already have kids and expecting twins, please say no. If your sister wants to get out of her mom's house, get her own place. And she is the type your husband goes for.......heck No, No, No. While you are trying to handle your household, she will be trying to handle your husband. Tell her to get her on place and please limit her visits. Girl, when you know the situation, don't invite it into your house. And besides I don't care how good of a christian he is the bottom line is he is still a MAN. Keep her out of your house if you can. In other words, keep your eye on sister girl. Good luck!
2006-06-20 06:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have plenty of company with all of your children. You need to let your sis know that its time for her go back home. You can be nice about it, telling her that its a little crowded at your place, but when the twins are born her help may be needed and you will let her know when it would be okay to come back for a visit, with a specific time limit. Good luck!
2006-06-20 06:06:53 · answer #11 · answered by Amanda S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋