You are pigeonholed in a job due to your degree--can't change jobs w/o a paycut. Your relationship has been at the same point for as long as you can remember. You own a house together but aren't married and don't know how to change. You are in neutral and don't know how to shift gears. What do you do?
2006-06-20 05:55:39 · 7 answers · asked by majeski18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The only person that can fix the environment is you. I know this is obvious but it comes down to what I call "the quality of life question" How much unhappiness are you willing to live with.
You need to find what is truly important in your life and strive for that goal. Staying in a unrewarding job and relationship will only create further resentment towards YOURSELF because you were unable to define limits. As for the money how much are you willing to pay for your inner peace. good luck
2006-06-20 06:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by quest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have at least one thing in common with you - pigeonholed in a job type I know I don't like, and reluctant to take a pay cut and change careers. What I have done so far for myself is to read "Find (the) work you love" and "What color is your parachute." These books helped me understand the importance of finding a career I enjoy, and then the steps to take action and make it happen. I also hired a career counselor to help coach me through it - we meet roughly once a month.
As for the relationship, I've been in one dead-ender before, and got out of it once I took a 1/2 day, drew a line down the center of a piece of paper, and listed pros and cons on either side about leaving the relationship. The pros outweighed the cons 2-to-1, so I ended it.
Lastly, the house. That's a tough one. Have you spoken with your partner about this yet? It is possible he or she feels the same way you do. If this is true, you could mutually agree to sell the house and go your separate ways. If your partner doesn't want to sell, I would take your deed/ purchase agreement specifics to a real estate lawyer and see what can be done. I have heard that these things can work out even if only one person wants to sell.
Hope that helps - all the best!
2006-06-20 06:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by Chris D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ugh i feel the same way sometimes
its fun to go away for like a month and work somewhere else.
or find a new job even if theres a pay cut wouldnt u rather make less money and be happy??? or take a vacation
2006-06-20 05:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by blondbabe03333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think really hard about ur life and where you are going and headed and if thats what you want for urself. will it make you happy? think long and hard about it and all thepros and cons, too. anything can be changed.
2006-06-20 06:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by kkaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a leave and go for a month long holiday. i guess you deserve it very badly. add some spice to your life...pls
2006-06-20 06:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by midas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUDE CHICA WHEN YOU FIND OUT PLEAASSSEEEE LET ME KNOW...IM IN THE SAME FOX HOLE....
2006-06-20 06:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by lastofodyinbreed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can inhale or suck on a fentanyl patch and get their miserable life over with. Your welcome.
2006-06-20 05:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by just curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋