does my man truely love me?

Question

me and my live in bf and i have been together for 6 years we have seperated about 4 times but we always seem to end up back with eachother. i put him in jail for a ABHAN CDV he spent 32 days in jail and while he was there i was there for him every step of the way. while he was there he wrote me and told me how much he really loved me and how he realize how he couldnt live without me. when we arer arguing im the worst person in the world, but when we are getting along he says im the best in the world

Answer 1

to see if he truly loves you, tell him you want to get married. if he truly loves you he will stop dragging this relationship along and make it official.

as long as you all are living together, he's getting all of the "benefits" of marriage without the committment. he can do what he pleases because there is no committment.

so here is his test, if he marries you he loves you! if not you will see that he's not willing to "man up" and take the next step to prove his love by marrying you. POINT BLANK!

if you allow him to stick around after that then thats on you...

Answer 2

I think you should forget him. I don't know how old you are, but this is the perfect recipe for an abusive relationship. Leave him now. That hot and cold behavior about you is not a good sign. If you are great one mintue and terrible the next think of his mind, or even his temper, he could probably fly off the handle without you realizing it.....he is not mature, you need to find a man that will respect you, and treat you with kindness. Remember that actions speak louder than words. Go back and read what you wrote to us, If your best friend, or even say daughter wrote that what would you tell her? I think you really need to look at WHY you seperated 4 times, that is a RED FLAG. Go back and really think about these things....and why you keep going back to him. Are you afraid of being alone? Does he fill some void in your life? I think you go back to him because you feel sorry for him or responsible for putting him in jail. Let the guy grow up and take responsiblity for his actions, do you think you keep going back to him because you feel more like a mother or guide for him? Let him grow up and learn his own way, respect yourself and find someone who will treat you with respect, and love that you deserve.

Answer 3

I wish you could see what I see, when I read this. You and your bf have the same relationship my ex and his does. She puts him in jail, yet bails him out the next day. Or in your case, are "there for him every step of the way".. IF you are going to take action enough to put him into jail, then you don't need to be helping him while he is there. This is what we call "enabling" you are allowing him to get out and start the "cycle" of the rollercoaster relationship over and over and over again..

As you say, 4 times.

It's great that you seem to get along well when things are going well. It's just that when things are bad they are really bad.

It's not for me to say if he truly loves you. Only you and he know that. But think of this. "If you can't control your emotional state then you must be addicted to it". and also this idea, "you aren't really in love with the person, you are in love with the feeling that person gives you, or enables you to have" thus the addiction to the relationship, the man, the "human drama"...

I am not talking from my A$$ either. I have been where you are. $hit I am there now. My love life is far from perfect (haha read my questions) BUT.. I have some insight. And I can read what you wrote. I am outside the box. You and He are inside.

I think you CAN make it work with him. 6yrs is a long time.. I would try. I tried for 12 yrs and probably would still try if given the chance despite the rollercoaster. I know you love him or the feeling that he gives you. That's why you nurture him while you just put him in jail.

I know you probably don't want to hear what I have to say, but to me it makes sense. Just try a few tweeks in the relationship is all I am asking. Try not to "enable" him so much. Try not to nurture him once you put him in jail. Try not to take him back so easily. Try to stand up for yourself and make him respect you.

Just a few tweeks. That's all I am asking...

:)

Answer 4

After reading this question I've become worried my mother was liek this with her second husband, except it finally got to the point were he was assualting her, I think if you have needed to put him in jail then thats were he belongs ppl just arn't put in jail for no reason, plenty of men have issue but that doesn't give them the right to take them issue out on others also this is a b/f for 6 years no commitment yet I see not why you just don't leave a potentially volitle situation and save face now. I hope this helps

Answer 5

Sounds to me like you need to get away from him before the verbal turns physical. He's been put into jail for abusing you, then the writting is on the wall. Get the hell away from him, run as fast as you can. I mean it, he's gonna hurt you !!!!

Answer 6

together not together ......some time has gone by , Find a new guy and maybe just be Friends. Don't get stuck on something that doesn't work.

Answer 7

end it its not strong .hes just using you cause he is insecure.

Answer 8

dump him your beutiful.