i've never been in a relationship for almost 3 yrs since we got seperated,,, he is my first and last in everything,,, i've loved him so much,,, but he cheats on me,,, he slept with another girl,,,, and i also found out that he's very irresponsible man... now, im a working student,,, i raise my child by myself,,, im happy now for i have my son,,, i love my son so much,, is there a chance theres someone who's responsible and loving guy who could accept me and love my son as his own,,not just for a moment but more than a lifetime????
2006-06-20 05:50:39 · 37 answers · asked by l_e_a_h_02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
l_e_a_h_02@yahoo.com
2006-06-20 05:51:33 · update #1
Of course sweetie. Give yourself time to get over that man before you start dating again. It sounds like you still have feelings for him, but you know he's not good for you.
Sooner or later (usually when you aren't looking) you will meet someone. I did. I was like you, cheated on and lied to by my ex for many years. I was a single mom raising my son alone for a year.
Then I found someone who loved me and cared about my son when I had just about given up hope! So, keep your head up and be a good mama to that boy. Good things will come to you. Trust me.
2006-06-20 05:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a single parent, it is hard but not impossible to do. Just make sure you instill some rules before introducing any man to your son because children cannot handle this. I usually meet my friends where we are going or meet outside that why the child does not become attached. There are still some good men out there...good luck and you may consider having a male mentor for him.
2006-06-20 05:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by beaderlovinglife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is hope for you yet deary. there are so many people out there that are single parents and there is no exception with the guys. almost every guy that i know has a child. (live in california) and they are more than happy to accept a woman with her own cause at least there little one has some one to play with while you guys are spanking each other. but all i must say is that while your child is small i think that you shouldn't be focusing on getting a man you can make it by yourself. there are some azzholes that look for women who have children and then rape or molest the kids. my real dad meet my mom at a bus station with her 2 daughters. they then had me but then it all went to hell, he molested us and beat us everyday. you dont' want to end up with a guy like that do you. I'm telling you can never be to careful. so just keep to yourself meanwhile wait till your child grows so that he's old enough to have some common sense and that he can defend himself. hope if helps.
2006-06-20 05:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very much possible, but I think it will take some patience on your part. Men like the one you want are hard to find, but the possibilities are endless you will find him. Right now you need to stay BUSY with loving your son.
Do not allow the search for the PERFECT MAN to overpower you, in other words, don't be obssessed with finding the right man. I believe there is someone for everyone, we just have to wait sometimes.
In the meantime keep working on your character and the way you feel about yourself and keep loving your son.
Forget your son's father, it is clear as day that he doesn't deserve you, YOU DESERVE BETTER!
2006-06-20 05:56:59 · answer #4 · answered by sassy_sexy_honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ask myself the same question, but everyone has someone out there for them, even if they've had bumps in the road with others. My relationship but broken up when I was pregnant, he left me for someone else and I was torn. I would ask myself who wants a girl with a newborn. My daughter is now 7 months, and I'm still waiting for the day for my life to move on and meet the man of my dreams. But If I believe that it's possible for you, than I must believe that it's possible for me.
2006-06-20 06:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by Curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a chance, but I think you should forget the idea of dating and finding a replacement father figure for your child. While I respect wanting a father figure for your child, you just need to keep worrying about your child and make that your focus. Focus on giving your child the best life possible, and let a father figure be a male sibling, or the child's grandfather.
2006-06-20 05:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish school!
You sound like you have a ton on your plate, get a few of them finished and then start to add desert.
Meh I know it sucks to be alone and lonely but relationships take work, years worth of work, and you can't skimp on them. It would just be terrible to try to juggle all that your doing now and drop a few of the balls.
Once you have time men will come. Then picking out the best of the bunch will be the hard part.
2006-06-20 06:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by MercyMillennium 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes there is somebody out there for you. i was in a simaiar situation i have 2 girls and was a single mother for a long time. now i have a wonderful husband and treats my girls as if they are his. and the thing is he is 4 yrs younger then me and has no children of his own, and i cant have any more due to medical reasons. so the point is yes there are still some wonderful men out there, just be patient.
2006-06-20 05:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k. ! this is a first, i don;t want to seem
too rude here,but are you pathetic or what !
asking on the internet,don,t have a clue what kind of weirdo,s
are watching just for a shot a someone like this....
please,what the HELL !.
man get a life,read somthing about internet, rapists,
there is a whole bunch of bunky mweirdos just waiting
for a girl like you. I really hope this is a joke.
and you are not as pathetic or as desperate as you sound.
if you cannot understand how dangerous this is.
get of the net love.......
2006-06-20 06:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by rottentothecore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is always that chance. being a single mom myself the best advice i can give you from my own experience is don't settle. you have a resposibility to that little boy to make sure that he has the best example possible of the right type of man. only you can make sure of that. i also have a son and it has taken me a while to find a good man, but i have finally.
2006-06-20 05:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by stevie s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋