There are so many horror stories I hear about marriage. Do you think that marriage is a bad idea? I've been with my husband for 4 years and there are so many people who tell me "just wait" when I tell them my marriage is very happy and healthy. My husband and I have always been very happy together, why is it that everyone thinks happy marriages are doomed?
2006-06-20 05:28:10 · 15 answers · asked by Cantrelle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife and I have been married for 32 years and I cannot imagine being without her. When I told her "I do" I meant every word of "until death do us part." Focus on your love for your husband while you live your life positively. Those who talk about failing marriages are focusing their energy down a self fulfilling prophetic road. Don't listen to what they are selling. Model your marriage philosophy after those who have been successful like my wife and I. We have been there and done that. So can you
2006-06-20 05:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by JT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not a bad idea at all. It was designed by God to be a wonderful and beautiful thing. Just wait for what? You have a great marriage .... Treasure that and hang on to it and dont let it go. The other people need to stop speaking negativitiy to your marriage and relationship. Keep that happiness going and stick with it. You will be successful and dont believe the lies and negativity of others.
2006-06-20 14:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get that thought out of your mind, or it will be doomed. Personally, I think if the right 2 people are together, it works out great..and of course, as long as they get married for the right reasons. In my family, marriage is forever....my grandparents were married for 56 years (before my grandpa died), my parents have been married for over 40 years...my siblings, anywhere from 8 -20 years....and I've been married a whopping 3 weeks...lol. There is no divorce in my family.....and I plan to keep it that way!
Good for you for being so happy with your husband....I wish all the best for you two!
2006-06-20 12:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Cantrelle,
Its always lovely to hear that.
Don't worry, usually people are happier but they won't tell you the good aspects of marriage.
i can very well guess you have an arrange marriage.
Expectations in an arrange marriage is much much lesser than that of Love marriage.
And if you meet all your partners expectations, then you are on the roll.
some words of wisdom
'The less complaining wife is, the more love she receives'
Cheers,
Gyaan Guru
2006-06-20 12:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by Gyaan Guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that its not that all people think marriage is bad ... it depends on who your married to ... i am currently on marriage #4 and very happy and been with my husband now for 5.5 yrs . my other marriages were young and stupid distions and i thought i knew who i married it came out that i didnt ... and that my dear is the most case with people the person u were inlove with turns out to not be the person u marry. now good luck with your marriage and try hard remember 50/50 at all times!
2006-06-20 12:34:11 · answer #5 · answered by MyMaria19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about people who have bad things to say, they just want to bring you down.
my honey and i have been married for 5 years and we are very happy. you have to work at it though, it's not all bunny rabbits and flowers (though flowers help).
when i was first pregnant, my father-in-law's wife started giong on about how my husband would be no help because when she was pregnant her husband was no help. i just replied that my husband wasn't like his dad. well, when the baby came there was some problems with the birth that resulted in a beautiful, healthy baby boy. my husband was soooo awsome, he could have done half of what he did and still have been wonderful.
i guess the bottom line is that we just both love eachother and that is our absolute.
2006-06-20 12:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with u lol...everyone is like yeah you'll see or ur just in the honeymoon phase.....why dont ppl just let things go lol...if ur happy in ur marriage dont worry what other ppl say they are basing it on their experience or what they hear! because most ppl have un-happy marriages and they cant fathom the thought that somebody might actually be happy!! i have a great marriage and i think sometimes people even get jealous so they make stupid, mindless comments...just shrug it off girl! u know ur happy and thats what counts!
2006-06-20 12:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ YaHabibeDisney ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to wonder the same thing. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years (next month!!). We have an amazing relationship!! People try to tell us it is because we are still newly-weds (after 3 yrs?!), and that things will eventually deteriorate. I think if you keep your spouse first, and love and respect them, there won't be a problem! Good luck!
2006-06-20 12:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are with the right person marriage can and is a beautiful experience. Don't get me wrong marriage is probably the hardest thing you will ever do in your life. If you expect it to bad it will.
2006-06-20 12:42:40 · answer #9 · answered by qti36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that. Its that most marriages are a roller coaster- there are ups and downs. If ya'll have never experienced that, consider yourselves very lucky. And keep working to keep the marriage a happy one!
2006-06-20 12:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋