My mom is 33, so is quite young compared to the 45 year o;ld moms that my friends have. My mom is stylish and cool. I can talk to her about anything and she is always there to give me make up advice. Everone loves my mom and are soooo jealous.
My problem- my mom is sooo understanding it makes me feel weird. I cant do the normal teenage acting by shouting " YOUR RUINING MY LIFE" when i go out, she doesn't say i wear to much make up. Shell tell me i havnet blended properly and fix it for me. If i have problems with guys, she will help. I kinda wish i had a "normal" mum who doesn't want me to grow up too fast. Its really werd. what do you think
2006-06-20 05:09:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
It sounds like maybe you feel that the boundary between your mom being your best friend and your mom being your protective parent, has become too blurred and confusing to you. This can be frustrating and overwhelming when what you really need at this time in your life is for your relationships to be more clearly defined and outlined. Though your mom sounds like she is trying her best to be really helpful and understanding, she may not realize that the blurring of the two roles makes you strangely uncomfortable precisely because her role (which is it parent? or friend?) remains unclear to you. You need to explain your feelings about this matter to her so that she can figure out how her role as a parent is not quite what it should be and how she can make it more clearly defined for you.
2006-06-20 05:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by Skye 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
While a lot of people would consider you very lucky I can see how you want a mommy. Someone to guide you more then boy advice and makeup tips.
She sounds like she is very understanding. Tell her. Maybe even show her this question. But when you get older I'm sure that you will cherish the relationship you will have with her.
It's normal to feel like you are feeling. You're a teenage girl and want to rebel and she's not letting you by being totally understanding. So you want to rebel against her complete understanding of being a teenage girl.
2006-06-20 12:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy you have that kind of a relationship with your mom, just a thought but maybe you are a really good kid and she TRUSTS you and that is why you don't have the screaming matches??
My mom died just before I turned 13, she was a lot like you describe your mom. After she died and I ended up on my own I moved into a friend's house (we were 16-17) her mom was the screaming match kind. HOWEVER! now as a parent, her mom was always screaming when we were doing something we shouldn't have been, It was like she knew even though we didn't show obvious signs of being "naughty" ha ha, It isn't like we went around breaking rules but she was always on the mark when those screaming matches broke out. So, just be happy that you are a good kid.......for now :-)
2006-06-20 12:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by #3 Due December 25th!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang onto this relationship the best you can. Dont wish for change. Your mom sounds just the way mine did. And it really helps. You're not getting nagged on and all that, but she is guiding you. She knows if she says dont wear makeup, you'll put it on once you get to school. So instead, she gives you pointers on the correct ways to wear it. She doesnt say no dating because then you'll sneak around behind her back and god knows what will happen. Instead she lets you come to talk to her and be honest with her. It will get you further. Love your mom for who she is and how she respects you. And respect her too...
2006-06-20 12:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am 16 and my mom is only 34. I understand what you are going through. But i dont realy see what the problem is. With my mom being younger she is able to do more active things. I enjoy having a younger mom and being so close to her. Maby you should try to talk to her.
2006-06-20 12:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,I don't think so enjoy her,my mom is like that except on dating!but I can talk to her about anything most of the time.Teens who say your ruining my life are weird and they grow up hating there parents!but u will love her
2006-06-20 14:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Mariah™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well seems like you want to be like all the other "normal" kids and be mad at your mom. but it seems to me that your mad at your mom right now because she isnt "normal" so therefore arnt you "normal" for being mad at your mom? be happy. i would die for your mom. sometimes those fights get a bit upsetting and its really cool to have a mom that acctually understands. my mom is 56 and my dad is close to 60. and im only 13. its so hard sometimes that i feel like killing myself or running away. would you really want some one to acctually ruin your life? because although it may seem like your friends are just saying that and they will get over it sometimes its hard to have someone constantly nagging at your made up face, your poor decisions in picking friends, your ugly clothes that "show everything". and one thing is that your not growing up too fast. its as normal for a teen or preteen to wear makeup as it is for an 8 year old to like barbie dolls. if you start getting more interested in saving money for the taxes then buying makeup then i think its time for your mother to start worring about her teen growing up too fast. im only 13 and i want to get out of this town and my parents grip so much that im acctually trying to get a job and save money for my future apartment, income taxes, and gas and oil for the car that im leaving to california with. so enjoy the time you have with your mother and be happy that you dont have to waste your childhood worrying whether or not your 3 part time jobs will pay for your rent and heating bills.
2006-06-20 13:56:39 · answer #7 · answered by hoboboho93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is YOUR mom. You may want a normal mom now but once you grow older you will realize your mom is her kind of normal. Plus she is your mom so she is great just how she is. Give it time and you will learn to love your mom for exacly who she is.
2006-06-21 03:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by l_a_hart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk 2 ur lovely mom
2006-06-20 12:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by pollyattractive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you have this good relatinship with your mum, you ought to be proud. She's still young so she can be funky. When she gets to like 40 and she still dresses like a teenager, then it's time to tell her to start toning down, until then enjoy your funky mum. What you have is special, don't blow it.
2006-06-20 12:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋