This is a very good friend and this person is having a surprise party for her elderly mother and the mother's sister. I thought it was in very poor taste to ask for money in lieu of gifts, on the invitation. Being the big mouth that I am I told my friend that I thought it was in very poor taste to ask for money in lieu of gifts. The family would like to send the sisters on a cruise or something, which I think is great to have everyone pitch in.
Is it tacky to ask for money on the invitation?
Can you register with a travel agent and put on the invitation registered at.....? What is the proper etiquette?
2006-06-20 04:46:55 · 10 answers · asked by justasking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I beleive it is in poor taste to ask for cash at any point during the process. Usually when people register for a wedding or a big aniversary or birthday, they dont put that information on the invitation itself.
It makes it sound as if your making sure to invite as many people as possible in order to maximize the amount of money that you will receive.
Sometimes the invitation will say "No gifts please."
That is also appropriate.
It sounds like the people that are in charge of planning this event have no class or tact, and for that reason, I would not attend, nor send money or a gift.
I might send a greeting card in the mail, but that would be it.
2006-06-20 05:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by creskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you could "register" with a travel agent, although a good one could be open to the suggestion. I've never heard of it, though.
I'm torn. Etiquette-wise, it's in *very* poor taste to ask for money on the invitation. If everyone being invited is close to the birthday "girls" and/or the giver, then it would be in *MUCH* better taste to have contacted each person individually by phone or personal contact to tell them the plan.
On the other hand, if I knew that someone was trying to put together something like a cruise with the money (rather than just asking for money so the recipients could buy their own giftS), I don't think it would offend me that much. I think there's a better way they could have gone about it, yes, but when it comes to *good* friends (not acquaintances), I don't stand on so much ceremony ;) I'd never be offended if my best friend's husband invited me to a surprise party and asked for money to help him buy a cruise ticket for her!
But again, maybe there was a better way to do it than putting it on the invitation. Or how about something like this?
We're having a party for Joan and Jane,
and soon after that they'll be on a plane!
A plane to take them to a beautiful boat,
where for seven days they'll drift and float!
We'd love you to come
and will see you there,
and hope that your gift
helps pay for the fare!
I dunno, I think when done creatively, money can be asked for - but I do think that just an outright request for money can be sticky. Eh! Just get over the "etiquette" part, throw a few bucks their way and wish them the best on a cruise! Life's short, don't sweat the small stuff.
2006-06-20 04:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very tacky! You don't throw a party and then dictate what the terms of gifts will be. Within a family circle that's OK, but not for all the other guests. Politely decline to give money and explain that you have something for them already. You're not a big mouth. True friends tell each other the truth. Don't let her mow you over into giving money. I've heard of alot of people doing that and it's TACKY AND RUDE!
2006-06-20 04:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~Yes, it's very tacky to ask for money. I wouldn't do that. If they are planning a cruise, they could have done something like games at the party.. do a raffle for $2 each and give out a prize or something. Poor etiquette. But don't sweat it, just give some money and forget it.~
2006-06-20 04:53:39 · answer #4 · answered by Cupid 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not tacky. I think you should write a check and be thankful you were invited. Honestly, I rather write a check than go shop.
FYI: In other cultures, it's proper etiquete to give money as gifts.
2006-06-20 04:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its very simple you go out and see what you would buy this person as a gift then just send the money for what it costs...Nothing wrong with that
2006-06-20 05:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to turn the trip money into a raffle or something that way everyone gets something, get kid toys that will be a sure money gobbler, if you do put something on the invite then be like they are trying to raise money for there dream gift then turn that into the raffle or what ever
2006-06-20 04:56:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to ask for money
2006-06-20 04:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but i think your right you should not ask on the invatation
2006-06-20 04:51:42 · answer #9 · answered by rickherr10 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT IS KINDA TACKY
2006-06-20 04:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋