and he is more verbally assertive about letting me know which ones he would "do". Which usually is 80 percent. at first i ignored it but now is in every conversation....is this normal should i just let it go? i just want him to be happy even if its not with me, but i dont want to be cheated on...what should i do?? im really upset about it. he is 22 and im 24. All his friends are jelouse of him because he is dating me, so i know its not me??
2006-06-20 04:19:50 · 10 answers · asked by nikel 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Other - Entertainment
Is he mature for being 22? Most probably not. I think you and him need to have a serious talk. He needs to decide what he is gonna do. Is he willing to commit to you for the long haul? Is he working.....going to college? It all boils down to you also. Do you think at this time, he will be a good husband? Is he faithful now and has he been faithful in the past? Dreaming (or lusting) at other girls doesn't sound like a commitment to me. Guard your heart, and I wish you the best of luck.
2006-06-20 08:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well.
Been there done that.
Male Perspective.
You need to realize that he is 22 and he may feel that he wants more, I did.
It is hard to say.
Other women and gay male friends will tell you that you look fine but you may have let yourself go.
He may see this and not want to tell you. "I know lost a few girl friends and I was the asshole."
I was more worried about their health really. "YES I WAS"
If your boyfriend has let himself go then tell he needs to get back in shape.
Other then that he is testing the waters for a threesome.
But mostly if none of the above is true most guys are idiots. I know I am one.
2006-06-20 06:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by Chowder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been dating the same guy for four years also. What a person dreams is not in their direct control, however, what they do in regards to a dream IS. If my guy told me had a dream about other women, and he probably does, I could accept that though it would kinda hurt a little. BUT if he threw it in my face constantly and graphically, that would have to stop. I think you should sit down, have a serious talk with him about how these dreams effect him, and how they effect you..open and honest. If he doesn't respect you enough to try to understand how you feel about it...then you have learned alot about his priorities...and where you fit in. I don't think he should feel bad, or be made to feel bad or wrong for having them, but he should feel concerned if he has hurt your feelings...because it is you he is with. If you have the concern of his cheating...that is another issue...which is trust. It is a very good thing he is talking openly with you about the dream...he just carries it a little too far.
2006-06-20 04:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by rruehlen45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now his head is feeling very big, maybe you've done that or his friends envy of you. You need to burst his bubble, tell him that you don't want to hear about which girl he thinks is hot. Tell him that you will break up with him if he wants to keep saying it
2006-06-20 04:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him choose either you stop making comments about other women which makes me feel uncomfortable or your happy to be with me. No it is not normal what your boyfriend is doing.
2006-06-20 04:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by bddrex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see a good looking guy tell your bf that you'd love to do that guy. Check out his reaction. It sounds to me like your bf has some wild oats to sow.
2006-06-20 04:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by toyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is natural to a certain point. Let his mind linger and start to let your mind wander also . He won't like it and he'll stop
2006-06-20 05:06:45 · answer #7 · answered by bramir01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me thinks he wants something more.....if he isnt happy and you want him top be happy..end it now move on and dont worry about his life....
2006-06-20 04:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jack Kerouac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS SICK MAN. DUMP HIM ASAP
2006-06-20 04:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by nakedandsucking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM.
2006-06-20 04:46:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋