I sometimes think marriage is the solution to loneliness, however I am told it is not so. Why?

Question

And I have heard of statements like this:
"Sometimes the loneliest place is in bed with someone who does not love you."

Answer 1

There are many many married people who are very lonely. People get into relationships expecting their partners to fill a void. However, it may seem to work at first, but in reality it doesn't work that way. You have to learn to be self sufficient and complete on your own as opposed to wanting someone else to complete you. You are puting an impossible expectation on your partner when you do this. A successful partnership happens when you go in with the attitude of wanting to share and take care of eachother instead of going in thinking about what you are gonna get out of the relationship. In order to do that, you must cure the loneliness first.

Answer 2

There is nothing lonier than being a relationship or marriage where you do not have any true commucation and feelings of being understood, appreciated, respected and loved. Not only do you have the not feeling loved, you have cut yourself off from the possibility of it having that in your life because you have already committed yourself.

Just because you are married does not mean that person is committed to you or will be there when you need them. What if it is your birthday and your spouse went out with their friends and left you home alone because he forgot about it and had plans with them and didn't want to disappoint them? What if you have surgery and they have their brother's friend that you don't even know take you to the hospital and you wake up in the recovery alone? That is what that feels like.

Answer 3

Its true. You can't expect a spouse to make everything perfect for you. You need to get happy with yourself. Find ways to not be lonely. And being married to a person that didn't love you would be awful. Instead of sharing your life, you'ld be married to a person that wasn't interested in your thoughts or how you feel. Sometimes the only reason me husband and I say yes to each other is because of love (military deployments, going out to eat, taking trips, who will clean what next, how to spend the money). But I was happy with me before we married. So I didn't expect him to fix me, I just expected him to love me. The less extra pressures you can put on a spouse, the easier it goes. So work on you, then think about adding a partner to the mix.

Answer 4

I like Brent's answer ! I enjoy being with myself and if I meet someone to share life with, that's ok but I rarely feel "lonely". I am single now and feel less lonely than I did when I was in a bad relationship. When you are in any relationship there is a tendency to feel that the person you are with should provide everything you need-therefore you should never feel lonely. However this is not true-you have to work out the "lonely" thing your self. It is a state of mind.

Answer 5

Loneliness is a condition within you. The lonliest I have ever been in my life was when I was married and physically close to someone. Come first to love and accept yourself. Be the person you would like to be with and you will attract such people into your life.

Answer 6

marriage is really hard work, you need to be willing to put in the effort to keep the passion alive, if you don't love the person you won't bother working at it and your relationship will be dead. Marry only for love and to be with that person forever, understand that it is not an easy ride and that you will need to continue making every effort to satisfy your partner emotionally and physically. Are you ready to commit to something that big?

Answer 7

It is the solution to loneliness. That statement is also true.

Answer 8

Loneliness is brought on by one's own self. It cannot be fixed by outside sources or other people, it can only be corrected by you. Fix it.

Answer 9

you can be in a room full of people and still be lonely so
true love is never lonely, it is fulfillment