why do men always say they want a "threeway"? If a man begs enough and the wife actually follows thru with it, is she just providing his desires to save their marriage? or is the marriage already doomed for lusting to others?
2006-06-20 03:53:57 · 52 answers · asked by loveandathreeway 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that's truly in live with sex and ego, not truley in love with wife
2006-06-20 03:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
a man will never stop lusting for others. Our cocks will always have their own mind. When we're in love we use our heart and our head more than our penis to think when it comes to sex with other women. as hard as it can be sometimes infidelity is always voluntary. If he's asking for a three-way he is till fighting the temptation to cheat. Your marriage is not doomed because he is lusting for others. He's been lusting from day one. The fact that he is actually considering having sex with another woman instead of just dismissing the idea is what you should be worried about.All men lust, not all men cheat. The three-way request is him trying to find a loop hole through the cheating rule. While it may satisfy him enough to get it out of his system, it might make him feel like it's ok and he might keep bugging you for some more.
2006-06-20 04:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that threeways are bad for a marriage unless that is what you truely want. In my relationship this will never be a option. We have agreed that this is wrong when you come into a marriage. Plus sometimes the wives will do it just to keep their man and it causes permanent pain for the women...a constant reminder that her man can go elsewhere....I think the marriage would be doomed for lusting to others if the threeway became part of your life.
2006-06-20 03:59:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen babe....
Eventually a man is gonna get tired of having the same chicken for dinner every day. No matter how many diferent and creative ways you serve it, it's still the same chicken (you know what I mean?)
Every now and then, the man is gonna want to enjoy a little beef sometimes. Why? Well, simply because he's a MAN, and even though a man will always love the chicken he has, seeing a nice tasty and juicy morcell of beef is going to whet his appetite.
Simply put: your man wants to be with other women, but he loves you so much, that he doesn't want to hurt you by cheating. At least he wants to include you in his desires for other women.
Having a threesome is risky to your marriage, and you don't have to do it if you don't want to....
But if your husband if going through that faze where he's wanting to be with other women, Let him have his fling....you're just gonna have to be strong enough to allow your man to BE a man.
What married man doesn't think about women once in a while? From presidents and heads of state, all way down to the most common of man, EVERY man wants to be with other women. The problem starts when their wives DON'T ALLOW them do act on it.
The husband wants to comply (be faithful), but that will also create a deep-seeded inner frustration in him, that one day it will explode (he will cheat)
I believe that giving your husband a little freedom in that area (and the wife not being threatened by it!), would save so many marriages, arguments, and animosity.
Again, a man wanting to be with other women DOESN'T mean that he doesn't love his wife any more.....your husband will ALWAYS love you!.....it just means that he's a little tired of eating chicken every day (you know what I mean, jellybean?)
2006-06-20 04:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Pulse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is about "sex" not "love" - he probably just wants to spice up your sex life, and that will definitely do it... don't look at it as such a serious thing, because he doesn't see it as serious, i'm sure. i don't think that the marriage is doomed for it - if he was really "lusting to others" so much that he would risk the marriage, then he would just cheat - without saying a word to the wife. instead he brought it up as a possibility for fun - it's not like he wants that all the time, he just wants to try it with the wife.
um, but if he does want it all the time then it isn't a good sign.
2006-06-20 04:00:51 · answer #5 · answered by asherdaire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is really lusting others unless the guy wants a three way with a specific person other than his wife. That's a really common fantasy, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. If the man is truly in love with his wife he'll understand and accept that she doesn't want to do it, and get over it.
2006-06-20 03:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No the marriage isn't doomed. Both people have to feel secure to do this and discuss it first because emotions can get in the way. It is just something men fantasize about. There's nothing unusual about it. It happens all the time and the marriages stay together.
2006-06-20 03:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say NO don't fall for any stories and don't let your answer sound wishy-washy. Emphatic NO. If he does not understand it is only two letters n o .
It can only bring trouble into a stable marriage. If he pushes the issue real hard he may be trying to cover up for something he has already done and is looking for justification, a blessing from you, or make you a victim of a transmitable disease he may have already acquired there bye locking you into an increasingly abusive relationship.
2006-06-20 04:05:17 · answer #8 · answered by hematech 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Hear me out.
Those who are in relationships and happy are all well and good, but curiosity is a STRONG force. A lot of guys have dreamed of having 2+ girls with him in bed at the same time.
And sex with a single partner isn't novel after awhile.
It only makes sense that one person would suggest it.
That isnt disrespect, and the person still loves his SO but it just means hes curious, or that his body is pushing him that way, even if his heart isn't.
Bringing it up and talking about it is the only way to deal with it, telling guys that THOUGHTS are wrong is evil, and its the number one reason why guys cheat, because they can't even discuss their feelings and urges with people who "Love" them.
Own them is more like it.
If the wife is fine with allowing it, and is truly fine, not just thinks she'd be fine with it, the marriage is likely very mature and able to handle it. If the girl gets Jealous and over protective, it means that even the question could ruin the relationship.
Me and My Fiancee talk, I'm not going to cheat on her, I'm not going after other girls, and I won't do anything of that nature without her blessing.
-ME
2006-06-20 04:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by divreon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is entirely possibly to completly love your husband/wife and have a fantasy about a third party. And even if the fantasy becomes reality, it can be viewed as an extension of the love making between the couple. The Other member of the long term couple needs to be 100% comfortable with the situation, and in no way should they be "persuaded" to allow the "play-date".
2006-06-20 04:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by amlique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you say 'truly in love', I feel that making love should be something very personal and intimate,. Just between the 2 of you'll... Because it is a very important and significant way of showing how much youlll love each other and the intimacy youll share. So if you actually followed through,I feel something is missing right there... I dont mean to be rude or anything, but this is hwat I genuinely feel
Good luck
2006-06-20 03:57:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋