2006-06-20 03:48:58 · 28 answers · asked by Loading..99.9% 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Do not restrict him! When children at that age speak about dating, oftenly they have nothing more than the purest intentions in their minds. I remember when I was that age that I liked that girl in my school, however we never dated because "her mom said she was too young"... At that age, if we had "dated" we probably would have barely talked to each other, let alone kiss... but I remember the "no, my mom won't let me" she gave me, left me pretty sad.
To sum up, I don't think he will do anything terrible if he starts "dating" a girl at this age. You should talk to him about the dating world, the responsabilities, etc... and you should allow him start looking for a girl that he likes and allow him to "date" (but not too much alone), if he finds the chance to do it. Watch over him, but give him space. He's starting to discover the world, it's normal and it's a part of life.
Remember this for the teenage years to come... it's better to allow your kid to do things and you knowing exactly what he's doing rather than forbid him to do them and having him do them on your back anyway.
2006-06-20 04:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by Firefox 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sadly this is because there is a lot of media pressure on kids to have girl friends and boy friends.. suppose they watch adult shows - it doesnt occur to kids that this is an "adult" show and those concerns are for adults.. even kids shows are distorted, only good show I have seen for kids is actually Everybody Hates Chris. others are WAY too into the boyfriend/girlfriend thing..
he needs to get some selfesteem so he isnt so needy of an other person to make him feel good, as a parent this is your job or before too long he will have some loney teenage gal knocked up...
Parents need to be more involved with their kids
2006-06-20 10:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him have one. My 7 year old thinks that she has a boyfriend in school. I wouldn't let them go on dates alone at age 10, but you and her parents could talk about it and decide if they could go to the movies or out dinner with the adults and they could sit with each other and you could set apart from them. It's the age where they are starting to learn about things and puberty is going to be starting soon. If you ask the pediatrician, they will tell you that he is going through the "pre-teen" stage--8-12.
2006-06-20 10:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should explain to him what having a girlfriend means in a way to make sure that he understands it. Children often have misconceptions about reality and the real world. He may actually want to have a girlfriend or just think that girls are nice to talk to at times. Girls are more emotional than boys and take actions more seriously than boys. so make sure he knows what he is doing.
2006-06-20 10:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by mspooh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's o.k. For me it's just like friendship; but he should be guided. Your should definately not live them alone (d girl's parent will not even condol that). Go to bed by 8 or 9. The rules still continues.
Note:b careful of what u do infront of the child and beware of the kind of movies or magazines u expose him to.
2006-06-20 11:02:25 · answer #5 · answered by kinny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is way too young. you should put an age restriction on when he can have a girlfriend like 15. because 13 is way too young. maybe wait til he's in high school. because before high school the relationships don't mean a thing and high school most of the time don't either.
2006-06-20 10:51:54 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him. It will give him an opportunity to practice being around girls and learn how to communicate w/girls. It will also give you an opportunity to teach him how to treat a girl right (hold the door open for her, etc).
Since he's only 10 (and I assume his "gf" is about the same age), it will most likely be innocent. You can always chaparone them if your too worried about it.
2006-06-20 10:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Sleepy Dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All children are going to be curious.Im sure at the age of ten it will be harmless holding hands and cutesy little notes.I wouldn't be too concerned and let him do it all on his own.It's going to be confusing for you and you just have to keep an eye on him.It will be fun for him, and who knows, he may get sick of it.It's a fun thing younger kids do and most of the time it's harmless.
2006-06-20 10:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by Pork Chop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, how cute! You should find him someone his age, as like a friend, that he can call a girlfriend. That's sort of what my mom did for me when I wanted a boyfriend, and I was only 8!
2006-06-20 10:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by skynyrdfan322 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you as the parent to set reasonable boundaries for your child. A ten year old has no business dating and you should make that clear.
2006-06-20 10:51:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋