Whos needs should come first, our spouses, our childrens, or our own?

Answer 1

yours should come first. If you're not able to take care of yourself how are you going to take care of others?

Answer 2

If you have children with your current spouse then you need to think of the family as a whole. However if you have children from a different spouse then you must think of the children. If they need you go to them. Your spouse has the intellect to understand. Your children wont.
If you are single then of course your own. If you don't no one will.
Don't get involved with a relationship if you have to question who's need are more important and certainly don't have any kid's.

Answer 3

You have to put your own needs first unless there is an emergency in someone else's life. If you don't put yourself first, you won't be any good to anyone else. EX.Many housewives feel so overwhelmed by their daily chores and errands. The kids may be taken care of physically but many don't feel like their mom takes special time out for them b/c she's too busy. And then when the hubby gets home all the days stresses are taken out on him. He might get a hot meal, but will he get some lovin later, probably not. Take some time out and destress. While the kids are napping, take a bubble bath. Make time to watch your favorite shows. Develop a hobby and make sure you do it. Even if your a 40 hour plus a week worker and a mom and a spouse, you still need to take a night to go to the movies with your friends or go out to eat or go to the spa on your day off. Just always put your needs first, or you can't be there fully for anyone else, mentally or physically.

Answer 4

I'm going against the majority here. Your spouse should come first, for without that person your family and children have nothing. Just because your kids come in second doesn't mean anything bad. Wedding vows elude to putting your spouse "above all others" and it doesn't say "except your kids" Ever hear the saying "Too much mother not enough wife" ? I rest my case.

Answer 5

That depends on the "needs" in question. If you don't put your own needs first, then you're worn down and dragging and unable to properly care for your spouse and your children. Sometimes you and/or your marriage need to come first. If you don't put your effort into keeping a happy home, you're not doing right by your kids.

Answer 6

juggle. it's hard. everyone in this scenario deserves attention, but, of course, not at the risk of compromising the basic true needs of anyone. ask your spouse to do the same. you can even get real organized about this and schedule it...
you:
monday- me day
tuesday-kids day
wednesday-spouse day
thursday-family day, etc
spouse:
monday-spouse day
tuesday-kids day
wednesday-me day, etc
your kids will enjoy the special time and the family time while they learn that mom & dad have individual needs. this will help them to balance life when they get older
if your talking about truly basic needs- parents should share in the burden as equally as possible, alternating duties- children come first but not at the expense of running yourself into the ground while the spouse waltzes

Answer 7

The children's. They have to be first THEN your spouse, then your own. This is assuming that your spouse puts you before them as well.

Answer 8

Easy God first then our spouses then our children and ourselves last. We raise our kids til they are grown and go out on our own but in marriage it is for a life time even before you have kids and after they are up and gone. You still have your spouse and your marriage.
http://www.marriagetoday.org

Answer 9

Children come first ALWAYS, then your spouse, and then your own.

Answer 10

If our needs are not met, how can we possibly tend to the needs of our spouse and children? ( It's like on an airplane and they tell you, in the event of an emergency, put your oxygen mask on first and then your kids. Didn't use to make sense to me but it does now.) You are useless to everyone if your needs are not met.

Answer 11

Usually your spouse. However, you did not give particulars. There are extenuating circumstances in every home. For instance, if your husband is an alcoholic, not working, and beating you and the kids then the answer is obviously you and the kids.