i have left all jus becos of him he still is mr cncrned about his famly frenz & othr people arund.I have tried all with him but nthing is workin out he undrstnds other people but not me.he keeps on finding faults in me & i try changing myslf accrdng to him...I need help atleast wat shud I do.i hv been fiting with my family since 3 yrs now & no one knows at his place abt me & he says we will marry & thn only I will tell my famly abt you..I keep on trying as he wants me to be but now I feel tired he looks other people but doesnt seems bothered abt me.At times he is loving at times not at all but this happens with me not wth sumbdy else.Wat shud I do...I am feeling low with this....Whn I care fr him he does not I do all fr him he is not giving even 1% of it...
2006-06-20 02:11:57 · 20 answers · asked by doll 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
DUMP him For Good!!
2006-06-20 02:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I only read about 1/3 of your question. You don't have to change yourself for anyone, if he doesn't like the way you are, he shouldn't even be with you. Find yourself a nice person who will appreciate you for what your are. This is called mental abuse where I come from. How could you put up with it for 3 years? What sort of a life do you think you'd have if you were to stay???
p.s. You obviously know that it's not right, or you wouldn't have asked the question.
2006-06-20 02:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EITHER YOU STICK AROUND AND LET THAT MAN BRING YOU DOWN OR YOU GET OUT OF THERE! IF HE KEEPS FINDING FAULTS IN YOU THEN IT IS PROBABLY BECAUSE HE HAS LOW SELF ESTEEM HIS SELF! DON'T CHANGE WHO YOU ARE FOR HIM! HE IS NOT WORTH IT. YOU CAN DO SOOO MUCH BETTER. IF HE LOVED YOU HE WOULD LISTEN TO HOW YOU FEEL AND CHANGE HIS HABITS BUT IF YA'LL HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR THREE YEARS AND NOTHING HAS CHANGED THEN WHY ARE YOU STILL HANGING AROUND. DON'T SAY BECAUSE YOU LOVE HIM BECAUSE LOVE IS NOT THAT BLIND TO WHERE YOU HAVE TO PUT UP WITH HIS BULLSHIT. STOP FEELING DOWN ABOUT YOUR SELF OVER THIS MAN. LEAVE HIM OR KEEP HIM OUT. HE NEEDS TO SHOW YOU MORE RESPECT. ALL I CAN SAY IS THE MORE YOU LET HIM DO THOSE THINGS THE MORE HE WILL DO THEM. AND WHAT IS THIS ABOUT MARRIAGE? IF HE IS TREATING YOU THIS WAY NOW DO YOU THINK THAT THINGS WILL GET BETTER AFTER BEING MARRIED? I WISH YOU THE BEST IN WHATEVER YOUR DECISION IS!
2006-06-20 02:22:16 · answer #3 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Oh, he will wake up when you leave and want you back, like a dog he left tied to the tree and only wants it back when someone else tries to take him. You have been treated worse than a dog. You need a dose of self-esteem. Good luck.
2006-06-20 02:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello! you really need to let the loser go he doesnt care about you he wants someone he can put down and boss around ,you need to talk with family and friends if he has any and tell you what they will let you know ,specially if you can find other girls that hes seen. I wouldnt like anyone to treat me like crap
2006-06-20 02:18:10 · answer #5 · answered by kittycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. To be in a relationship like this is unhealthy.
He obviously doesn't care for you. You deserve better.
Ask yourself also, why you would want to subjegate yourself to such treatment? Love doesn't mean being miserable.
2006-06-20 02:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by zencherry67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not stay or persue this person, he sounds like he is a mentally abusive person which is very bad because it can get worse and god forbid he turns physically abusive.
2006-06-20 02:14:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lauren M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short, make one last attempt to tell him you don't like what he say's to you even if he is joking, then if he doesn.t change you know its not your fault and get rid post haste. Theres more to life than men.
2006-06-20 02:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been seeing this guy for 3 years and no one knows about you and you haven't met his family WAKE UP he's obviously already married and you're his mistress DUH! Dump is @$$ and find someone who treats you right and with respect.
2006-06-20 02:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by just because 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need more self confidence, self respect, and self reassurance.
Smile for every new day, happiness comes from within...
2006-06-20 02:22:04 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave him.
And study English.
2006-06-20 02:13:49 · answer #11 · answered by chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋