My son and his fiance are having a baby.Her parents are not supportive.My husband and I took her in because her parents hate my son.They started hating him because she got pregnant before they loved him.They took her car from her,kicked her out told her they didn't want anything to do with her or the baby.They havent been here the whole 9 months but now that she is ready to deliver and they want all of the glory.It is not fair to my son or our family as we have been here.What should I do ?I cannot deal with them putting my son down and telling their daughter to break up with him.My son loves her and his daughter very much and has given everything for them why cant her family see this?
2006-06-20 01:48:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Okay - it isn't right what they did. Maybe THEY'D admit it too. I can't stand parents like this. If you son gets married into that family, God bless him. (I have in-law problems and it's difficult). The ONLY issue I can see is the fact that they still are paternal grandparents. Even though they did not treat them right, is it right to keep their grandchild out of their lives? I don't know. I truly understand where you're coming from. Grandparents are very important to children. Maybe the figured the relationship wouldn't last and now that it has, maybe they've had second thoughts. The definitely owe AT THE VERY LEAST an apology to everyone involved and I hope you at least get that.
2006-06-20 01:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can really do is be there to support and love your son and his family. Those two need to tell her parents to budout and that they are going to be a family and either they except it or they don't, it's up to them. That they can keep there commits to themselves. If those two just put it out there and lay the law down from the very beginning, then her parents won't have much of a choice or say in things. But they must stay strong and back themselves up, if her parents still try causing trouble, then they should stay away. I had in-laws like them once and when they saw that there efforts were for naut, they could nothing else except miss out on two wonderful lifes. If they care about there daughter, they will let her find herself and her happiness and get back into her life and except things as they are.Hope things work out for the good.
2006-06-20 09:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by kys1best 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blueyes you keep doing the right thing...no matter what. There is no easy answer to your question. We cannot change the way people act or react. We can only do what is right and let time deal with those who always seem to want to be on the left. You're right, it's not fair and EVERYONE knows. You can't let their irresponsible nature stand in the way of you doing what is right. Be a good example to your son and teach him how to handle situations like this. Stay the course. Life is made up of 10% of what happens to us and 90% of how we handle it. You already know what to do, just keep doing what you know is rught.
2006-06-20 09:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did what was best for your son, daughter, and grandchild. I know it hurts but move on. Don't worry about them and how they feel. If they miss the bus on a great experience then that is their loss you were there and they know that. Just don't worry take care of your family, enjoy your granddaughter and live life. The more you battle the more you miss out. Life is to short for that stuff.
2006-06-20 09:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it is very difficult question but i think that you did your rule right with your son and his wife
you have to accept her parents theory about your son because the fell as if some one stole their own daughter but this is not a reason of what they did to her
any way try to keep a line between the two families cause sooner or later you will need each other
2006-06-20 09:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by the one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with them only when you have to. Continue to be supportive of your son and his girlfriend as well as the baby. Do not however insult her parents or make comments about them to their daughter. Be the bigger person. Eventually their daughter will see them for what they really are. Just try to do what is in the best interest of the baby, she is the one who does not have a voice.
2006-06-20 08:56:28 · answer #6 · answered by fuzzyfatrabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your son old enough to marry and support her and the child? If not maybe they will come around when they see how he is taking care of them. Remember, they are grandparents too and the best thing to do is have some non judgmental communication between all parties. Good Luck.
2006-06-20 08:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋