bein a gay ...is it somethin u become or it's somethin u r?

Answer 1

Well... I am gay... Don't really think I was born gay, as a child I never really thought about having sex with people. Male or female, when I was in grade school I had girlfriends which I ended up dumping because I found them boring. Never really thought about having sex with them either, nor did I have that sexual urge to experiment and play "Doctor" with these girls. My first sexual experience was with my best friend, behind a shed with him humping me. Yes, I know. Sounds perverted and it was only humping but from the moment on it was like... That wasn't sooooo bad. Then this boy and I had a whole love triangle thing going on with this girl we both liked, draaaaama. During this time in school, about six grade I started to have these feelings for some of the boys in my class. Like... Odd to explain, urges to like touch them. Not really sexually, I just wanted to be around them a lot and touching them... lol

High School, was... High School... So, bleh. Was popular enough to not be a geek or nerd but not enough so that I was hanging out with cheerleaders. Football players maybe, it really is odd. Even then football players would stick up for me if anyone ever even tried to make fun of me. That is mostly why I find it odd that people act the way they do on here, I've been really sheltered from Gay Bashing... Since... Everyone I've known has seemingly liked me for who I am not who I wish to have a relationship with. Besides of course my mother, who says I am going to hell.

I am tired and rambling, sorry. I believe you become gay, not always by your own actions. You have no way to control being either way, it just happens. You can't blame something on just being born that way... I never have. I am who I am, there is not enough prayer in the world that could make me straight. Women just bore me, no offence girls, they always have.

Answer 2

This is a very hard question to answer even as a gay teenager. I have often thought about wheater I was born gay or became gay. I want to say I was born gay because looking back at my younger years I had gay tendencies, and habbits that I was never thought. However on the other hand I did date girls for a while become comming out. I think maybe gay people are born to be gay but are too scared to do it, or something else changes their mind.

Answer 3

It depends. Most gay people are born gay. Some become gay whether it was a chance meeting with someone of the same gender who stole their heart, or their hetero relationships were too abusive or unfullfilling. Some people go for years feeling something is missing and THEN they realize they are gay.

Answer 4

I personally think it's the way you are born, there are males born with the outward appearances of a male but the inner hormones of a female and vice versa, that's why there are some men that act ,walk and talk feminine like a woman and some women talk,act,and walk masculine like a man!!!!!!One has no control over the way he or she is made inside their mother's wound, it's not their choice to be created that way and they have absolutely no control over the matter!!!!!Having that said although i believe that most people who are gay are born that way there are a few that's choose to be gay or bi as well,just to experiment with it i guess,to see what it feels like and if it's meant for them or not!!!!!So in my opinion it's a combination of both,something u r in the majority of cases but those odd few are guy by choice!!!

Answer 5

Our orientations are something we are born with how could they be anything else. When a 3 year old knows that he is different or a 5 year old knows that he finds men attractive. Or when a preteen begins to get his first erections and knows that it is over a man not a woman. This last one can be devastating.

I knew I was attracted to both male and female at a very early age. My story is complicated by the fact that at the age of 9 I was sexually assaulted by a group of 7 teenage boys at camp. This caused me to withdraw from my own gender and I didn't have any male friends growing up. I wanted nothing to do with men and yet I was attracted to them. I lived a straight life and convinced myself that I would have been normal if not for the rape. And that is partly true I would have been normal for me and would have been bisexual. But I convinced myself that I would not have same gender attraction if not for the rape. It has taken me 29 years to come to terms with what happened to me and I am free from the struggle and happy for the first time in my life. I am married and have three children and I am bisexual I love my wife and my family and I have no plans to change my situation I am just acknowledging for the first time in my life that I am bisexual and have a deep attraction to men as well as women. Being faithful to my wife is not easy but I don't imagine it is any more of a struggle than a heterosexual would face with the temptation to sleep with another woman. I just don’t have the thing I desire at home. I find it easier to resist other women because that need is being fulfilled at home, I still look at other women and appreciate their beauty the same as I look at men and appreciate their beauty. I just know that I have a longing that will be unfulfilled in that regard. I have struggles some days I think I want to find some guy to have a relationship on the side with and other days I think no I will be true to my wife. I struggle with it constantly. But I am still happier now that I accept the fact that I have these desires and that I am bisexual than I was before when I was denying that part of my nature.
I tell you my history as an example that people with same gender attraction are born that way not made that way. The years I believed that the rape had caused me to be that way where years in which I was miserable. This past year when I accepted my sexuality I have been happy even though outwardly my life has not changed drastically. I am a new person I am happy not conflicted. I am still unfulfilled and will have to work on finding a release for that but I am not obsessed with men like I was and not racked with guilt over it. I am still looking at men and still want to be with a guy but not in the same desperate way that I wanted it before. I think this can only be because I accepted that this is how God made me and he will guide me to the right path. I really to pray that one day Christians will be able to accept people with same gender attraction for what they are people who have love for some one that is more like themselves.
In the book of Galatians Paul said that god sees neither Greek nor Jew, slave or free-man, man or woman.
This means that God doesn’t see the difference in our genders he just sees people. I think the world will be better off when we are all like that and only see people.

Answer 6

I think it's something you are born with, but a lot of times we suppress it until we are older because we are told it's odd behaivor. For some it's a curiousity that lasts through there teens and 20's and for others it is a lifestyle which is theres forever. All depends on the person.

Answer 7

for the most part, it's a state of being. a person is gay, like a person is left handed.
a person's behaviour can change, like a gay man sleeping with women. I can put a pen in my right hand and make marks on a page, but I don't do it very well :)

Answer 8

Personally, I do not know, nor am I gay myself. Nevertheless, regardless, whether you are born or you choose to be gay - the result is still the same. You are gay.

So, who cares I say... that is your preference.
Gay, straight, bi - whatever.

Answer 9

Being gay is just the person you are and nothing you can do can change that.

Answer 10

100% you ARE. It's possible that you realise about this when you are old, but it does not mean that you were not gay before, it's just that this side was not developed yet.