My question is important for me I need you to take it serious please?

Question

Why should we trust a psychologist I mean he’s a stranger and I can’t tell my secrets to a someone I just met, I mean how could we know that he’s not gonna tell somebody, or how do we know that he’s listening to us carefully and he really want to help us, or how do we know that he cares about us, I know that this’s his job, but I can’t imagine myself telling my secrets and issues to a stranger, what do you think?

Answer 1

Psychologist are bound to a code of ethics, just like Social Workers (I'm a social worker). There are strict rules regarding confidentiality and client respect. In the first session with a psychologist he or she should tell you under what circumstances they must break confidentiality between the two of you. Some of the circumstances are if you report that you are abusing your child, if your children are in danger, if you are at risk of taking your own life or someone else's or if you are in imminent danger. Most of us take our jobs very seriously and we are in these professions to help other people. You should also be able to tell if this person is listening by you listening for "active listening skills," meaning that if you say something like "I hate every day and I just think things are hopeless sometimes," the psychologist should say soemthing like, "so you feel hopeless in life?" It sounds kind of ridiculous, but that is that persons way of making sure they understood what you said. I hope this helps!!

Answer 2

The only shrink I ever had was two shrinks. One, an older man was from China and spoke no English. The other was a young lady, also Chinese that did speak English. The girl would ask me questions and then when I would answer she would turn to the man and speak in Chinese. He would then say something to her in Chinese and she would turn to me and speak it in English. The whole time they were interviewing me I could hardly keep from laughing out loud. I was wondering if she was telling him the truth, and wondering if she was telling me the truth about his answer. I was also wondering how much was getting lost in the process.
I can understand you dilemma, but you have to trust that they are there to help you. It is important to be sure that the person that you choose to be your listener is a person of integrity. Don't be afraid to ask them a couple of test Question to set you mind at ease before you start the session. They are just human at best, so that means they do not know everything, but they can listen and offer what advise they do have. I would suggest additional spiritual counseling. This too is important as to who you are talking to. A true spiritual councilor is nothing but a vessel for God to talk to you.

Answer 3

hehe i think that we never know if we can or can't trust psychologist. Well he/she should listen to you and then tell u what he/she thinks about and maby help u. Unfortunately u will never know that until u try. After 1st visit u will know if it was worth of it and if u should try it again or not or choos another psychologist. If u have realy close good friend try them first but it's hard to get opinion of close friend that would see both sides of some problem and possibilities how to fix it.
BTW if u go to psychologist and if he/she tells your secrets to someone else eventualy u won't know that and if someone stops u and say: Hey i know your secrets cause someone told me then u can always lie and tell that this was't true and then u can add some name to the list of peeps u should't talk to

Answer 4

Personally, I don't advocate the use of a psychologist, but I will say this: if you need someone to talk to, a psychologist is better than almost anyone else. They are bound by laws to keep client confidentiality, so I honestly believe you're safe there. In addition, many times it's easier to talk to a stranger than to someone who already knows you. I can't count the number of times that people I don't know tell me more than I want to know about their lives! Besides, there's nothing to guarantee that if you tell your best friend, he/she won't tell "just one person" and tell them "don't tell anyone I told you"...that always leads to everyone in your inner circle knowing.

Answer 5

Firstly he is a professional just like your gp/lawyer. Your matters are confidential. It is his job to listen to you advise and help you to resolve any problems/issues you may have. Some people feel much better talking to a stranger with no strings attached than to a friend/family who will cause them to feel embarassed. Really the choice is yours.

Answer 6

sometimes it is easier to tell your really really privat stuff to a stranger.
and he can look at the problem from an outside point of view - which helps a lot to help someone.
people who are involved in your private life will always take sides and won't be able to help much.

but if it doesn't work for you then don't go
you can also always change the therapist anytime if you don't like the person you are with

Answer 7

Most of the times, you just need someone to talk, you can't talk to your loved one because when people are intimate to each other, they are more likely to hurt each others, you can't talk to them because you don't want to hurt them or being hurt by them, your problems need to be resolved by you, many times, there are no real problems, shrink is just a venue for you to release your frustration, and if he tell your secret to other people, believe me, at the very least, he will lose his license.

Answer 8

You need to chose a psychologist very carefully. Not all are good at what they do.

Answer 9

Honestly tell him or her your problem it is something they are very use to. On top of that they have probaly heard more bad things than you can even think of.

Answer 10

The last place to look for a solution to help your problems is outside yourself....