is the orgasm and feelings are the main factors to get pregnat?pls explain?

Question

its 1and 1/2 years since we married and we r tryimg for a baby..so far nothing happen.and when me & my hubby do sex im not getting any feelings and obviously not reaching the orgasm.but im preventing like i am having my orgasms and feelings..my question is whether i will not get pregnant if i dont have feelings and if i dont reach d orgasm when i intercourse with my hubby?

Answer 1

Female orgasm plays at *most* a tiny role in fertility. There are reasons to believe that it may *slightly* increase your odds of conceiving. But it is not an important factor.

If you have been trying to conceive with no luck, please read _Taking Charge of Your Fertility_ by Toni Weschler. It explains how your body works and will increase the likelihood of pregnancy. If you do need medical help in conceiving, it will also save you time, money, and discomfort in treatment.

Answer 2

Feelings and orgasm have very little to do with getting pregnant. If women had to "be in love" and "have an orgasm" then the human race would have died out by the European Medieval period. Women's orgasms were not even recognized medically until tthe 20th century. Orgasm can make conception more likely by causing the cervix to dialte and increasing lubrication, but certainly, throughout the ages have had little concern for a woman's orgasm and the human race has gone on. Also, if feelings and orgasm were necessary then artificial insemination would be a huge waste of money.


The process for pregnancy involves sperm and egges. Women have a monthly cycle. Usually, about halfway through the cycle a woman's ovary will produce a fertile egg. During intersourse, when a man ejaculates, or even leaks a small amount of seminal fluid, sperm are released into the vaginal canal. THe sperm swim up and eventually may reach the egg. One sperm will penetrate the egg. This is conception. THen the egg must become implanted in the wall of the uterus.

It would seem that you live somewhere that this knowledge is relatively unavailable. But your lack of feeling and lack of orgasm probably don't have anything to do with your failure to conceive. You should go see a MEDICAL doctor. Both women's bodies and men's bodies can have problems with fertility. If a woman doesn't have periods, she is probably not ovulating. A man can have too few sperm, or his sperm may not swim well (have low motility). In either case, it is not something that the person is at faultfor, it is just nature.
If you live somewhere where it is hard for women to get information about reproduction, I suggest that you use your internet access to do some research. A little correct information may give you the knowledge you need to get pregnant.

Check this link for basics on fertility: http://health.msn.com/pregnancykids/articlepage.aspx?cp-documentid=100104076

Answer 3

Some women never orgasm until they are pregnant, or sometimes even afterwards. There is some research that shows that the female orgasm could aid in helping the sperm reach the egg, with the contractions of the muscles during orgasm and the fluid exchange. You do not need to orgasm, though, to get pregnant. Look at the women who get raped and end up pregnant. They obviously didn't orgasm.....

It seems like you are having a little bit of difficulty with your husband and actually enjoying sex. My advice to you: try spicing things up a bit. Your husband may be resistant at first, but try introducing toys or something that he can use on you. He is definitely getting pleasure from you, and you should be getting pleasure from him. You both really need to be able to enjoy each other!! Remember, don't focus too much on making the baby. Have fun!! Good luck to you.

Answer 4

There's no biological connection between the woman's orgasm (or lack of it) and pregnancy. The woman's part in getting pregnant is to produce an egg (called ovulation), which typically happens about two weeks before the onset of her period.

For a day or two after ovulation, the egg can be fertilized if there is sperm in the woman's reproductive system. Since sperm can live about 48 hours in the woman's body, there are some days when it's easier to get pregnant than others. For references on this, go to Amazon.com and look for books on the subject "natural family planning." They'll tell you what to look for to determine when you're most likely to get pregnant.

Now, as for reaching orgasm -- that's an entirely different issue which has NOTHING to do with the mechanics of pregnancy, but may have a LOT to do with your relationship with your husband. As a VERY general statement, women need to have a certain level of intimacy, relaxation, comfort, and attention -- both physical and emotional -- in order to achieve orgasm. (Comedian Jerry Seinfeld jokes that women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place.) There are also a lot of books on that, and not all of them are obscene. But most important, you need to communicate with your husband about what you enjoy, what stimulates you, and what puts you "in the mood."

And finally... One thing that you may notice is that "trying" to conceive turns sex from a natural expression of intimacy with your spouse into WORK -- and what's worse, it's work that is failing. I have talked with other couples who enjoyed sex immensely until they "tried" to conceive, especially if they had to "try" for more than a few months. It can become depressing to have sex month after month without conceiving, even for people who had high sex drives previously. So if you feel this way, you're not alone -- and there's help. Talk to your doctor to make sure there isn't any simple condition that's keeping you from getting pregnant (for us, it was an undiagnosed yeast infection that changed her body chemistry -- six months of trying produced nothing, then after a week of medication she got pregnant in her next cycle).

So it could be that not getting pregnant is making you not have orgasms, not the other way 'round, because the stress of not conceiving could be making you feel depressed about sex altogether. Start by making sure there's no physical/medical reason you're not having sex, and then work up from there.

Most important: you're not alone in this, you're not broken or weird or defective. Sometimes I used to think it was amazing that anybody got pregnant at ALL...

Best!

Answer 5

You do not have to have an orgasm or feelings to get pregnant, i should know. That was the way it happened with my first. all it takes is the sperm from hubby! There isn't much research going on about the connection with orgasm's and pregnacy though it does make things feel better!

Answer 6

orgasm has nothing to do with getting pregnant. it's the sperm and the egg that must come together. keep trying. we've tried for 3 yrs before our 1st child was born. relax and don't stress. stress will make it more diffiult to get pregnant and it goes for husband and wife. on the orgasm. get to know your body yourself first. give yourself an orgasm 1st (by masturbating)and then let your hubby know what's nice.

Answer 7

This happened in science class the other day a student teacher said orgasm instead of organism, wow the teenagers laughed so hard I thought people were going to die from heart attacks.

Answer 8

To orgasm ,Finger the g spot furiously (or use a g spot viberator), masterbate the clit fast at the same time (like rub a power viberator on your clit). Maybe have an object in your a-nus. You have to be horn*y in order for the orgasm to work, so you may want to incorporate goat weed. G spot is inside top wall of vagina.

Answer 9

you don't need to orgasm to become pregnant
but I think it may help the sperm reach it's destination faster if you do
do you REALLY want to become pregnant??
it sounds like from what you wrote that you don't have any feelings?does that mean emotionally or sexually?
if it's meant to be it will happen...
keep trying!!

Answer 10

OOOhhhhh yeah, its definately the sperm & egg that must come together.For that to happen you must have sex. If you think there's a problem see a gynac, both of you, don't wait.