am seriously in love with my boyfriend but i find myself cheating on him with my ex who knows that i have a guy. we made and my boyfreind is not aware but i don't want him to be cos i love him. i really want to stop cheatin on him but i just can't help it i find myself doing it again. i feel so used after wards and i can't look my boyfreind in the face, will he ever find out pls help me
2006-06-20 00:20:54 · 10 answers · asked by Prisca 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music
The first thing in a relationship is to try to put yourself in the other person's shoes.
How would you feel if he were doing what you are? Of course you know the answer.
You're not being fair to your boyfriend by doing the things that you're doing with your ex. You say you love him, and I'm sure that you do, but you have to realize that true love is one that is willing to do whatever is necessary to make the other person happy and still remain happy yourself. This is not happening for you. To be happy, you are with this ex, and then you're not happy when you are back with your love because of what you have done with your ex.
Sexual attraction can be quite strong, I understand this. What you need to ask yourself is though: Is what I'm doing with this ex worth hurting the one that I love?
My advice? Break it off with the one you love and your ex. Go find what makes you truly happy while being alone. Until you figure out the puzzle that is you, you will consistently be confused when you are in a relationship. This isn't fair to your partner, and deep down you understand this.
2006-06-20 00:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by zencherry67 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are cheating on him you must not love him THAT much. If you can't stop b/c of the pain it will cause him, how much can you really love him? Tell him the truth or he will find out on his own. It is his decision to decide if he wants to be with you, not yours. Beyond cheating, you are not being fair or honest to this person that you love so much. Maybe that's not the kind of love he wants.
2006-06-20 00:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do the following: (In my opionion)
Stop sleeping with your ex.
Tell your boyfriend you have cheated.
Ask him if he will forgive you?
If not break up and find out more about yourself as a person and why you would do that to someone you "love". You can't keep hurting him. It is not fair..and he doesn't deserve it..no one does.
and
Don't get back in another relationship till you do find out.
2006-06-20 00:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look deep into yourself. You wouldnt want to hurt the one you love.You still have feeling or a attraction towards your ex. So breakup with your boyfriend before you do anymore damage til you get a hold of yourself, and your true feelings. I might add the damage is already done.
2006-06-20 00:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by ☺stacy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't love him if your sleeping with someone else. How would you feel if he did it to you? You make me ill. I hate people who cheat. Leave the guy your with and let him find a nice, FAITHFUL girlfriend that he deserves, not a sl*t like you.
2006-06-20 00:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two words to consider here, love and lust, and until you know the difference between these two you will continue to hurt people. When you are sincere about not wanting to hurt people, you don't do the same mistake twice.
2006-06-20 00:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot possibly love this boy and want to be with anyone else. Let him go before you hurt him. Move on.
2006-06-20 00:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by bookfreak2day 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple: if you cheat on him, whether you realize what you are doing or not, means that you don't love your boyfriend big enough. So, please don't say that you love him so much. If you do so, you wouldn't do that.
2006-06-20 00:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by Fun Fearless!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then you wouldn't cheat on him, so you really don't love him. Sorry to burst your bubble.
2006-06-20 02:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by guineasomelove 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope he finds out and gets rid of you.
2006-06-20 00:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋