My fella was with his ex for 3 years, they were together for 8-9 months when se moved in.
We have been together for 9 months, and no way will he have me stay with him.
ls he scared of it all end badly again or is he just being an ***?
2006-06-20 00:10:30 · 18 answers · asked by London girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yeah, he's scared. He's taking precautions now, at the early stage, which is good.
2006-06-20 00:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by rarelybutalwaysme 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is a bit more cautious this time round. Who can blame him? At least it shows he has learnt from his previous experience.
Have you discussed this with him - in a calm, cool and friendly, but unemotional way? I say this because such discussions can so easily turn into arguments, and you don't want to put him under any pressure, you just want to find out why things have not moved forward in the way you hoped.
You may not like the answer, but at least by getting it, you will have the information you need to decide what to do next - either give it more time, or cut your losses and move on. By talking about it, if he is unhappy with the relationship, it will give him the chance to say so, which may seem hard on you at the time, but at least you will know where you stand, and won't waste time in a relationship that might be going nowhere. Of course, this could all be wrong, and he simply wants to take things more slowly this time round - if so, I wish you both the best of luck and hope it works out for you.
Hope this helps.
2006-06-20 00:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by fallen angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He maybe feels that it is to soon yet and he does not want this relationship to go the same way as the last one. Give him time, 9 months is not a long time and you should not try to pressure him as you will just push him away. Do you feel that you are somehow in competition with his ex. If so try and remember he has chose you and you have nothing to fear from her.
2006-06-20 00:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by happyflamepepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was living with a guy for 6 years. We moved in together after 5 months. That relationship finished over 2 years ago. I am with my current boyfriend for the last year and have no intention moving in with him even though he is without doubt the love of my life. I want to take things slowly and enjoy every stage of the relationship. Every relationship is different. It may be that he doesn't want to rush this for fear of ruining what you have together. Relax and take it in your stride. Try to enjoy it. xx
2006-06-20 00:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that he is afraid things will end badly the same as before; you need to discuss this situation with him and tell him how you feel.Also maybe start off slower by spending the night with him or a weekend.Take things slow.
2006-06-20 00:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could depend on why his last relationship ended. If he thinks that moving in together made the last relationship fail, then he is more likely to want to wait longer next time. Or it could be for practical reasons e.g., financial
2006-06-20 00:14:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tom :: Athier than Thou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has been hurt badly - do not think that you are any problem to him. Just give him time to heal. Be there to support him and love him and give him space also. Trust me he will come to you when the time is right.
2006-06-20 00:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the last relationship ended babdly, consider taht maybe he doesnt want this to happen with this one hes taking it slow jsut give him time.
2006-06-20 00:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by Lilmisssassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is being cautious after a bad break up. Give him time, to learn to trust again
2006-06-20 01:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by Lupee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was badly hurt.Be patient if he loves you the wall will crumble down
2006-06-20 00:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋