How to deal with people who take the piss, read on please, thanks?

Question

When me & my boyfriend go round mates house to watch football or have party & BBQ etc (which is most weekends) we both take a bottle of drink that we like as they might not have any drink at there house that we both like, ill take a bottle of malibu & b/f will take JD and bottle of coke for us and also a few beer and bottle of wine for other people to drink dont want to turn up empty handed, but half the people never that turn up at the party dont bring any drink and end up drinking ours so we end up with none ourself and this always happens, i told my b/f that im going to say something to these people as it really pissed me of! but b/f dont like confrentation most of all when it includes me, so what do i do to stop them from spongeing all our drink ?? really makes me angry that they just pour themself a drink with out even askin whos it is etc, so when you go to pour yourself one there none left, is this just me or ould this piss you of

Answer 1

Could take a piss in a bottle and leave it out .... lol

or something like that..... XD

Answer 2

Some people are juat plain spongers and always will be and then some of the people probably think that the drink belongs to the people who own the house (like that make it better) I personally am like you I would turn up with nothing and drink other peoples. The next time you go try not bringing anything with you and say that you are not drinking tonight or make sutle hints / digs and then they might get the message bring up the subject of how expensive it is for a bottle of malibu and JD and ask them what the bought and how much it cost it will probably shame them into buying some next week.

Answer 3

i have the same problem and at the end of the night i always leave what ive taken if theres any left. But i too have had it with scroungers people turn up that arnt invited eat everything in site put there dirty shoes over your suite and never go home until the drinks gone, i know how you feel my husband doesnt care but i do im sick of being taken forgranted, so now my husband says make sure you bring some beer and somthing for the bbq some do some dont and the ones that dont are the ones that never have a party scroungers.

Answer 4

Find new friends? Parties are no fun unless they are with friends anyway. These people aren't your friends. Most people go to a party and take a bottle of cheap plonk and suffer drinking the rubbish. The last time I went to a party, as an expert wine maker I took a case of wine. It wasn't appreciated. The party was a waste of time and no fun. The only party I enjoy is the ones I organise myself. But then I supply all the booze and food! So I stopped going to or having parties; there are other ways to enjoy yourself.

Answer 5

I find that the best way is to just bring a reasonable bottle of wine and/or some beers. If you want to bring expensive alcohol you need to keep it under your nose because otherwise people thing the host has provided it.

Answer 6

When it comes to the drink ,...people let there ethics go walk about. Bring your own esky with your name on it and your drink in it and sit on it. Bring a 2cnd smaller esky for the offering. Or if you use the host fridge put a gift ribbon around your drink and write for Sue and Paul ONLY on the ribbon and people will get the message. If you tell off your mates...then you will be sorry.

Answer 7

no. would you ask to do everything you need to do at the house? have a seat and when you get up have to ask if anyone was sitting there everytime you got up. of move your feet and have to ask if it was bothering anyone. its a drink, did the host ask them to bring something to drink? maybe they thought the host provided the drinks and if they were you friends why would you make such a fuss a bout it. they dont get mad if you accidentally take a grape from the fridge without asking. why would you be so pissed off about a little drink. if youre so pissed you should buy a flask and hide your drink in your coat or drink as much as you can befor anyoneed can get a chance at it.

Answer 8

you very generous with your drink most only take bottle of wine , a few beers ,,maybe they see that and its OK so and so will bring plenty no worries ....try just taking complimentary bottle of wine a few times sure the message will get through when they see the booze isn't lasting hope your not driving

Answer 9

I have never been anywhere where every one didn't share. Seems like people are taking advantage of you. If they cannot afford to buy I would not mind giving them a drink as long as they didn't make a habit of it. But if they had money and were just sponging off of yous I would not allow it.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

Dump your b/f he obviously couldn't care less about your feelings.

Dump these so-called friends too as they shouldn't be sponging.

I have been in similar situations in the past and it does you no good at all to either say anything or say nothing. The only solution is a change of scene so make a clean break of it.