Well he offers me money, n he offers to give me gas for my truck. He just straight out offers to give me stuff, or pay for stuff. Like I said I don't ask for anything from him. He's offering so I'm taking it. Just one thing though. His girlfriend don't know that he gives me this stuff. I don't know if I should call it gifts or not? LOL. But his girlfriend is also jealous of me cause we are friends. I've met him 6 months ago, and 2 months ago we just start getting close. Is he offering this stuff as gifts because that's his style, or because he likes me? Tell me what do yall think? I hope to hear some good answers. So yahoo's best answer-givers, give me your best answers!
2006-06-19 22:53:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well RECENTLY a couple weekz ago, he startz offerin me money, n he offers to give me gas for my truck. He just straight out offers to give me stuff, or pay for stuff. Like I said I don't ask for anything from him. He's offering so I'm taking it. Just one thing though. His girlfriend don't know that he gives me this stuff. I don't know if I should call it gifts or not? LOL. But his girlfriend is also jealous of me cause we are friends. I've met him 6 months ago, and 2 months ago we just start getting close. Is he offering this stuff as gifts because that's his style, or because he likes me? Tell me what do yall think? I hope to hear some good answers. So yahoo's best answer-givers, give me your best answers!
2006-06-19 23:01:13 · update #1
He wants to sleep with you.
2006-06-19 22:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While many people think that a gift is something that comes without "strings," anytime you accept gifts in the situation you describe, you accept the responsibility that comes with them. These are not "gifts" being given at traditional times or for traditional reasons (Christmas, birthdays, etc.) - they are expressions from your friend, "N", and carry with them the responsibility to interpret and respond to those expressions appropriately. You've only known this guy for 6 months and the fact that you say that you two started "getting close" two months ago indicates to me that you aren't "just friends" and that you are well aware as to where this is going.
Given the added fact that he has a girlfriend who is jealous of you and - more importantly - DOESN'T KNOW that he is giving you these gifts, you are treading on volcanic territory.
Ok, so that means that you are in competition for another girl's boyfriend and happy to be there (or you would not be accepting the "gifts.") You know that he is courting you "on the side" and you are hoping to soon replace his girlfriend in his affections. Maybe you will and maybe you won't. Either way, you might want to consider the cost - to your integrity, to your furture, and to the soon-to-be ex.
Would you want this done to you ? If he was your boyfriend, would you want some chickie out there accepting money from him and gifts ? Probably not. And would you want her to decline them out of respect for you ? This kind of thing hurts and you need to consider how you feel about intentionally hurting another human being.
Would you want this done to you ? Would you want your boyfriend out there buying gas and giving gifts to some other girl ? Would you want to have that kind of guy in your life ? Because another thing you might want to consider is that if he will do this to his current girlfriend, he will do it to you when you replace her. And her replacement. And her replacement.
Becoming an adult means making adult choices - and one of those choices is to look outside your own little sphere of interest and seeing what effect your actions has on others. It means having respect for the lives of others and ensuring you don't take steps that you know will have a hurtful impact on their lives. If he wants a new girlfriend (you) then he can break up with his current and court you, but that's the chronology in which it should take place: first he breaks with her, THEN he makes his move with you - they don't happen simultaneously. Not unless you (and he) intend to remain oblivious to other human beings the rest of your lives.
2006-06-19 23:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could b a few answers to ure question.
1. He could be extremely generous.
2. He could want something from u.
3. He may b trying to buy ure friendship.
He does like U, for what reason, only he would know.
Maybe its a 3-some with his girlfriend, maybe its to make her jealous and make her love him more.
You should confront him and ask him y he gives u stuff u dont ask for. Stop accepting stuff from him and Stop all contact, if he gets violent, call the police. Keep 911 on speed-dial before u confront him. Tread with caution. Never trust a stranger.
2006-06-19 23:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by medhruv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may see his girlfriend's friends as his friends and is treating you accordingly. Then again, if he is, as you say, offering you money, gas, etc. without warrant, he may be trying to sleep with you. Ask him straight out what the deal is, and try to guage his reaction.
2006-07-03 10:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont want to repeat what someone else *two* already said.
*two* should get BEST answer because thats right down to the point and i would have said the same thing to you.
2006-07-02 19:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by apleasure2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him ask if he likes you more hten a friend and if he says no than tell him not to be giveing you thing cause it seems like a wierd signal
2006-06-30 17:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be gay...i've never had any straight men offer money--most straight men i meet have no job, no car and no driver's license...
2006-07-03 10:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by darianmichaels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a giving and generous person, nothing wrong with that.... If he didn't want to do it, he wouldn't offer.............
2006-06-29 10:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes u if you ask him or tell himu like him its sure enough he will say ya
2006-07-03 14:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by Tide Cheerleader 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may be trying to by your friendship
2006-07-03 04:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by lovable kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋