I have been friends with this guy for eight years or longer, we have pretty much been through everything. From the murder of his parent, to the fact he was the first person I came "out" to about my sexuality. In fact, the only reason I did so was because I thought I was falling in love with him. Well, I did fall in love with him to some degree. What exactly that means is beyond me at the moment, easier to not think about it.
Okay, let's make a list
-He has stripped naked for me on more than one occasion.
-Gotten under my blankets and laid on me in nothing but boxers.
-Shown me videos of himself having sex with girls.
-Told me he loves me, though in which manner. Who knows.
Okay, he is straight. As far as I know, far as he has told me over and over again. Though, he has never said no to my suggestion of sex between the two of us. Seemed more curious than anything. But he seems to be afraid it will turn him gay, which I understand the want to not be. I'm confused by all of it.
2006-06-19 22:12:23 · 9 answers · asked by Soelk 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well, his sexuality isn't the main problem. What should I do with him? I have no clue, on one hand I want him to be gay/bi and on the other I don't. This guy is trying to be a pro athlete player, he is good enough to become just that. And I can already guess the stigma for a gay athlete will probably be harsh.
I'm just so freaking... frustrated. lmfao
2006-06-19 22:24:59 · update #1
Oh my, I've never meant to pressure him into anything if that is what I'm doing. He is the one stripping and rubbing against me like an animal in heat. I'm a virgin and plan on staying one for a good while longer he knows this. So... yeah
2006-06-19 22:38:40 · update #2
you've been friends for more than 8 yrs. If he's gay he would have sex with you already!! Sometimes there's a fine line being good friend and being in a relationship. Perhaps he doesn't even know how to express his friendship towards you. He wants to be grateful to you yet do not want to mislead you into thinking he wanted a relationship cause he is not gay. We are brought up with heterosexual mentality and define male as musculine and female as feminine. It confuse the heck out of straight guys how to handle their frienship with their gay men's friend. Especially those who have close frienship. I believe some of them do cross the line of sex. Which would make the situation worse. He is appreciative of your frienship and I bet he knows you are into him. In his mind he's probably thinking should he sleep with you to show his appreciation and betray his own sexuality? As for you I would not be so quick to invest that much emotion into that direction. Yes, I know it's very difficult and very tempting. Ultimately you have to protect yourself from heartbreak and more important to preserve your friendship with him. One of this days he's gonna fall hard for a girl and you gonna need to tear yourself off him emotionally.
2006-06-20 01:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by sstooc2001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds g0y go to www.g0ys.org and read the whole website there is some nudity so be warned but it will tell you what he needs from you and it will help you to have a relationship that will be satisfying without him worrying about being gay. The actions you describe are the seduction a g0y uses to get intimate with a guy. G0ys are almost always into athletics and they want manly men not feminine men. That is g0y with a zero, not an o. Good luck and feel free to contact me through my profile if you have any questions.
2006-06-20 10:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a good friend and has proven that he will go to almost any lengths for you. He's just not turned on by men. Only 3-10% of the population is gay, He's not one of them. He's been intimate with you. He respects you for who you are. You have a great friend. He would be your lover, but he's not turned on by guys. You are so lucky to have someone like him in your life. Stop thinking about yourself. Love is more important than sex or sexual acts. Be happy that you are accepted and loved. You could be lonely, alienated, and miserable, like many gays your age are. Enjoy the friendship that you have. Look for other gays to have sex with and stop pressuring your hetero friend into it.
2006-06-20 05:25:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy is stripping down to his birthday suit for you and rubbing himself on you then he may be testing your friendship. On the other hand he could be sending you a message that he might want to see what gay sex is like and want you to be the one to share the first time with him. Maybe you should try mutual J.O. or something like that. Just remember take it slow and play safe.
2006-06-20 15:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by kbrearley2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves u for sure and he wants to be a gay or bi ,,, i guess.
2006-06-20 08:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by xabrty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your buddy is horny and wants to experiment, nothing more, nothing less...it is a phase and he will pass through it. Make up your mind now...do it with him or do not...the chance will soon be passed.
2006-06-20 08:48:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a very good friend. If anything let him make the move not you.
2006-06-20 15:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by butch2107 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes to be a tease... That's all...
He is actually experiencing why girls do it to guys, and thrill of it.
2006-06-20 05:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's gay
2006-06-20 05:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋