my man always think that am doing something stupid when am out of his sight. but never in the history of our relationship have i done anything offensive to him in terms of fidelity. he's my life and my everything
2006-06-19 20:40:58 · 14 answers · asked by music 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am sorry i am not like this rest of the people but i do think trust and honesty are the two main ingredients in a relationship maybe hes hiding something do not quote me but usually those who accuse are guilty themselves but good luck you should not have to prove your innocent he should have complete trust if he loves and wants a great relationship best of luck hope i help in at least a tiny bit
2006-06-19 21:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the answer isn't one you want to hear but it is the only one there is. trust can not be won it is earned and although you have not done anything to be not trusted it doesn't have to do with you. this is something that he needs to deal with and him alone. all you can do is reassure him and let him know he is free to feel whatever it is he feels but in his heart if he truly believes that you are messing around then maybe you shouldn't be together. this is an insecurity problem and takes alot of time and patience from both sides. you have to be willing to tolerate the whining the accusations and having to detail every moment of your absence until he finally accepts the fact you are not cheating. He also needs to take the step of handing over his heart to you, fully and completely, which if he has been hurt alot its a hard thing to do especially for sensitive guys. hang in there as long as you can but in the end its got to be him that gives you the trust.
2006-06-20 03:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by leslie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud your character and fidelity. Pray about it and ask for help. Try to spend more time with him. From there, he will gradually see that you cant possibly be on someone's else bed and with him at the same time. It will be a long road, but since you love him so, i know you can make it.
2006-06-20 03:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by Philanthropist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he been hurt and cheated on in the past by another woman? If so that is why he feels this way. You need to stay true to him not matter what and over time he will know that he can trust you no matter what you are doing or where you are at even if you are not with him. Keep on being who you are and he will learn.
2006-06-20 07:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing else to do that what you are doing. Fidelity is the best attitude in any affair. If you try to over impress him you may end up losing him. Be confident that someday he will realize that loyalty is innate and cannot be bought. Keep on keeping on.
2006-06-20 04:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your boyfriend/man is very possessive of u and lack the sense of security... i think he overreacted since you are actually ''loyal'' to him.... i think you should let him know your feelings and listen to his feelings too on his part. Have a nice talk and sort things out? To gain his trust, you can spend more time with him and prove that he's more important then others.
-goodluck-
2006-06-20 03:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not a posesive jerk.. he is just insecure.. maybe in his past there were isues with other girls... he trully loves u, and thats y he gets so posesive.. he doesen't mean to offend u.. if u really understand, and really love him...
then u can help by asking him to come with u.. so he can see ur not seeing other men.. or... if u have a cell phone.. tell him to call u whenever he feels like (except when ur at work) and check on u... just open urself completely.. show u have nothing to hide.. and tell him u love him more ofthen...
and in time he'll trust u.. and stop with this..
u can also start acting like ur posesive too.. like... in joke... ask him what's her name... ask him if he is cheating.. but as a cuddling play.. game.. so he will understand he should stop.. and that he is nagging...
and he'll get over it..
just talk freerely as much as posible
;)
2006-06-20 03:48:11 · answer #7 · answered by themikevlad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever think he's the problem ? Maybe he's doing someone else and is projecting on you ? Maybe he's playing the I'm afraid of infidelity card to wrap you up in his lasso of control. Sounds like a whack job to me the kind of guy who beats another guy up for talking to his girl pretty lame.
2006-06-20 03:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by jason83go 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure. Love is many things but it should never be un-trusting. You should take a good look at your relationship and maybe take a little time apart. Trust is one of the biggest parts of love, without it - its not love and can never be.
2006-06-20 03:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by lvmykds06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not broken his trust, then maybe someone from his past did. Maybe he is just insecure and you need to reasure him. Good luck, I would try some kind of counseling :)
2006-06-20 03:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by Katherine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋