He is threating her because she won't talk to him, and wants to get out. And she wants to know if he molested her in her private areas, within 7 years to now can she still file a report on him? He abused her too and she still has the bruises. And he is making her scared that he might hit her again. WHat can she do?
2006-06-19 20:05:35 · 15 answers · asked by sugarbear 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
If you want to help her, educate yourself about the due process involved in abuse cases. In most instances, the minor is removed from the home until an investigation is completed. She may be moved to a home of a family member (who may or may not allow her father to see her despite the courts order), a foster home (where she may or may not be mistreated) or a group home (again, where she may or may not be mistreated). I am not suggesting that child abuse is right, but there are no ways of guaranteeing that she will not be further victimized in her quest for help. Before you (or she) make a plan on what to do, consider all the options involved. Good luck.
P.S. I am an abuse survivor and child abuse advocate. Please feel free to contact me through my email here.
2006-06-19 20:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything she does to put that jerk in jail is good. But to begin with, she should go live with an adult she can trust. Is her mother alive and around yet? She could be her first choice. Or else, another relative, like a brother or sister who doesn't live at home any more, or a teacher or a friend.
And please, all the time this fight lasts, let her always remember that this was definitely NOT her fault. She must never forget that. And that will give her the strength to talk about it with as many people as possible. The more reliable people who know, the more protected she'll be from any further danger.
Good luck on this.
ADDED LATER:
On second thoughts, going to her mother might not turn out to be the best solution. I mean, she must know what this monster has been doing to her daughter, or at least suspect it. If so, she's going to stand by him. So, go to her ONLY if you are absolutely sure she's reliable. Maybe an aunt or uncle on her mother's side would be a better choice.
2006-06-19 20:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can try but the charges will not go anywhere unless she can prove that he molested her. But if she runs to DSS and reports the abuse she'll be temporarily removed from his custody until the matter is resolved. She'll be safe in State care but there is no telling for how long she will be protected. She should go while she still has the bruises. Otherwise nothing can be done for her.
2006-06-30 09:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the Police involved rightaway, The longer this goes on the more damage is done. The Police will remove the father from the home right away. If there are more younger females in the family there is a good chance that they are being violated to!!!!
CALL 911!!!!!!!
2006-06-19 20:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should tell a trusted adult or teacher. They can get her the help she needs to break away from this awful man. He will be put into jail where he belongs, and she may want to look into some therapy to help her get over what she has gone through. If she doesn't want to tell someone, you should. You would be helping a friend in need, even if she gets mad at you for it. Don't be one of those who know but won't do anything. Be there for her. She'll need all the help she can get.
2006-06-19 20:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by destiny21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she has a place to seek shelter/sanctuary BEFORE reporting to the police. Get a trusted adult to help her (eg her mom). Getting her a shelter is to protect her from her dad. She should not have to see her dad again after the report unless accompanied by an adult to prevent him harming her.
2006-06-19 20:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are in the US, call:
1 800 799 SAFE
http://www.ndvh.org/
That is the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
They will give you much better advice than anything you will get here (on the Internet generally).
2006-06-19 20:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by Left the building 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The statute of limitations for sexual acts against a child do not usually start tolling until the person's 18th birthday. She should contact the police or a counselor at school.
2006-06-19 20:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by James 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her tell her instructor at school. That instructor is needed through regulation to report this to the police. little ones amenities will come into the homestead and remedy the problem for her. both she and her mom are in serious probability. Her father should be locked up without delay previously he does some thing even worse to them.
2016-11-15 00:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the longer she waits the more it hurts,she has 2 file a report on him..and get some therapy..but mostly she has 2 file a report..she might need alot of support ^_^
2006-06-19 20:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋