2006-06-19 19:53:16 · 25 answers · asked by luvly_lady3426 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is a good thing you found this out now, There is no way you want any part of this person at all...
You move forward, and do not look back, he is NOT worth it!!!
2006-06-19 19:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When people are in a relationship, this should not be construed to mean they are a possesion!IThis also goes into marriage.. your spouse should not demean you to the level of a piece of property!!!!!!!From what you said, it's quite shocking that you're still holding on!You are not married and he's is suggesting this;what will happen if you get married? To have come to a point of saying it to you, there is a high chance that he has been doing it out there and to silence his conscience and guilt he is shifting to you per adventure you may ratify or endorse it. To me it looks like a time bomb waiting for you to arrive to explode!!
Realise that marriage has far reaching effects in life than we can probably accomodate at the moment. Romantic feelings can blind us to these realities (be warned)Commitment and high level discipline are some of the things that cannot be assumed or taken for granted!
Re-check your principles now than later.Better not jump into it than once in, try to cure the resultant consequences...remember this era of HIV and other menice!!
Does he really love you or he likes you and want to gratify his lust at your expense?Better a broken engagement than a broken marriage!!
2006-06-20 03:10:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should seriously consider your relationship. If your bf isn't happy with you now and wants to sleep with other people, whats to stop him once you get married? Sounds like you both could benefit from some couples counseling before you get married.
Marriage is tough, much tougher than just dating. So, if your bf is having trouble being faithful now - he may not handle marriage too well.
2006-06-20 02:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help a little to know how old you and your bf are, but I would venture to say that if your bf wants to sleep with other people before you are married then he isn't mature enough to get married, and not the the kind of husband you would want. If he wants to sleep with other people I would say he isn't a very good boyfriend either, maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship.
2006-06-20 02:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. FairyLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man is not even committed to you in times of discussing marriage or engagement, then he will not take marriage vows seriously either. I agree with the others here, give the guy his walking papers, and call it a learning experience. Respect is a must have when it comes to discussing marriage and other forms of committment. This guys clearly does not have it.
2006-06-20 03:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by authorunknown1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thats what his wish then let him do it,but just make him sure that he wont be getting any std's or you'll both suffer.in a way that would be a test to know if he would really be faithful to you or he is just after one thing and that is SEX...
if he is really serious about you getting married he will have to think otherwise,coz if that is his wished why not tell him you'll do the same and try to analyze if he would like that idea,just broached it to him and then see his reactions if he liked the idea of his girl sleeping with another guy...
2006-06-20 03:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by bluvirus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant be serious? so is he saying you should sleep with other people too? Here is what you should do Act like its okay with you the next time you see him and just be cool about it and then never talk to him again just leave him alone he is not for you and marriage would only be a mistake dont do it leave while you can.
2006-06-20 04:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look u do what u feel in ur heart...no one can tell u what to do but urself....none of us knows how u feel in your heart...only u know that....if u feel u can handle him being with others and can get over it and never throw it up in the past then...allow it....cause if u allow it and it drives u crazy and u keep throwing it up to him then u both will b miserable...and the marriage more than likely won't last anyway......just ask ur self if u can get over it and u will get ur answer....if it will bother u then tell him and if he loves u then he should understand....if not then go ur own way and maybe u will meet back in the middle one day and be ready for marriage...GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-20 03:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by pma_hc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should do is:Broke up with him immediately,no reason needed to be given to him.
Figure out:After you get married,he wants to sleep with other people as a variation of sex life again.How do you feel?
2006-06-20 02:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by Eldha'sfather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he wants to marry you, then he needs to stay faithful, before and during the marriage. He can't marry you, but sleep around before the wedding. Thats bullshit.
2006-06-20 02:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by smurfette_au2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋