my husband and i have 4 kids and he does not help at all. he wakes up goes to work comes home and gets on the comp. to play games. i have to watch the kids all day while i clean the house mow the yard feed the kids , give the kids a bath, dress the kids ect. i love him very much but when i ask him to do anything he gets mad and starts with" i do everything and you just don't see it when i do it". everytime i say something about the kids he starts screaming. he does play with hte kids sometimes , i know he loves us with all his heart and it would kill him if we left , but i just don't know what to do.
2006-06-19 19:31:19 · 7 answers · asked by mother of 4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
get rid of the computer for a few days. say that something happend it crashed you have taking it to get fixed. See if he will help out if not then another thing you can do is not do anthing for him and say untill you help you can do everything yourself example washing his own clother, getting his own tea, washing own dishers.
Good luck sweety and let me know how you go.
2006-06-19 19:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair for you to have all the burden of caring for a home and 4 kids on your own. It's not healthy for you, or for your husband. You need to talk to him and see if he will talk with a counselor with you so that you all can work through this. You say you know he loves you and your kids with all his heart, but he needs to act on that, words alone are not enough.
If you let the situation go on you will get more and more bitter, and resentful of your husband and perhaps your children. You have a right not to be treated like an indentured servant, and to have a partner.
2006-06-19 19:38:48 · answer #2 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk to him - do it calmly and rationally, don't accuse him or make him feel like he's not doing his share. Let him know how much you appreciate the fact that he works hard for you and his family. Just be honest and tell him how you feel and explain to him what you do all day - or maybe one day when he has off ask him to observe you in action. He needs to know that you work very, very hard even though you are at home.
He needs to know that you need some help and that when he gets home from work, after he unwinds, it would be nice for him to take the kids off your hands even if it's just for an hour. Just communicate with him and talk to him about what you want and what you need - communication is the key in a marriage.
2006-06-19 19:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to help with the house and kids or you are leaving...
then if he doesn't, give him a couple of days alone to think about it.
Perhaps the "slap in the face" is what he needs.
2006-06-19 19:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by Bradly S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you say he does'nt help at all.I hope he quits his job & makes you're ungreatful A$$ go out there and deal w/ all thr B.S. he has to.
2006-06-19 19:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married him for better of for worse.
2006-06-19 19:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by RYSN1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an affair.
2006-06-19 19:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by pickle head 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋