I hate my ex-boyfriend that lied to me and broke all my dreams and my opinions about life...I can not give up hating
2006-06-19 19:21:40 · 21 answers · asked by ota marmota 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hold onto the hate for a while, its easier than dealing with pain, but sooner or later you'll just kind of stop thinking abut him and he just turns into nothing.
2006-06-19 19:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hating someone sure is human, but the to forgive someone is more than that, Well, sure what your ex did was really sad which has made you think differently about life but then this is also not the end and one needs to move on. Dear, no one can really come and take you out of this, but then you need to help yourself and think positively to get out.
Cheers!
2006-06-20 02:25:36 · answer #2 · answered by *Darling*Detective* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having broken my dream girls heart I can offer some advice you probably won't like but here it goes anyway. If you didn't love him so much it wouldn't have hurt so bad. If it didn't hurt so bad you wouldn't hate him as much. Should you forgive him.....yes. But for you not for him. If you hold on to the hate your holding on to him. Do you really hate him, or do you hate the fact you can't let him go?
Like I said, for your sake, forgive him, forgive yourself. Good Luck.
2006-06-20 02:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you can hate him for as long as you like. For your entire life. But just remember hate is an emotion. A negative emotion. And it does harm over the long haul.
As for your dreams and your opinions about life. Make new ones. This is your time to reevaluate who you are, what you want, and how to get it. So focus there, focus you and not him.
When you hurt and your trust is violated, don't worry about the cause. Work towards a resolution. This is your time, your time to heal, your time to focus, and your time for yourself.
2006-06-20 02:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by J. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still forgive someone and not like what they did to you. I think that you need to search out any possible way to forgive him, because if you have this grudge against him for the rest of your life it will slowly destroy your life. It will get in the way of you moving on with your life. Please try your best to at least not like him.
2006-06-20 02:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by Meeshell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you can hate someone. God did. Romans 9:13 Jacob have I loved but Esau have I hated. Secondly, you only have to forgive him if he asks for your forgiveness.
2006-06-20 02:32:38 · answer #6 · answered by mcraefamily_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time hating him ..Hate is not a good thing . You don't want to or need to hate....He wrecked your dream but there is still alot of living to be done ....You will find some one who will make all your dreams come true !!! But lose the hatred ..
2006-06-20 02:26:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must forgive him. I know it is not
easy, but you will end up as a bitter unhappy person.
Life is better if you can forgive----that does not mean
you have to forget. If you can do both....you will reach the
sky. Satan wants us to hate other people, do what is right
for you. FORGIVE, and live a better life
2006-06-20 02:26:08 · answer #8 · answered by destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is bad for you. Forgiving him will not make him do this to you all over again but will release you of your hatred and you can then finally move on with your life.
2006-06-20 02:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's neither bad or good. It is just a waste of time. You are responsible for your happiness and hating someone is a waste of your energy. Drop it.
2006-06-20 02:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by Mary E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋