anyone else find wanting to cheat on your........?

Question

spouse a little weird, my friend wants to cheat on her husband with anyone that gives her some attention. she has been with her husband for 7 yrs and it has been a very difficult time for both and theres alot of things going on with them that i can not mention, which to say hes not a great husband and they have been considering divorce but she dosent want to leave him because of the kids who are rather young and very attached to there dad like i said hes not a good husband but is a good dad and does financally support the family - she dosent have to work but i think by him doing this to her it is making her enabled and more dependable on him - he dosent want a divorce - i think she'll be happier if she can have her cake and eat it too- guys whats your opinion on dating a married woman? mind you she hasnt done anything yet - so how do you feel about this

ok let me say again -SHE HASNT DONE ANYTHING -

oh and not only that but her husband spends maybe 15 min a day with her dosent help her with the kids or the house, on the weekends when hes not at work hes doing things he wants to do like playing basketball or video games or hanging out with his friends and is just barely supporting them - i dont want it to seem like im justifying this *ss doing these kind of things- not only that but is always accusing her of cheating on him i mean someone cuold drive past their house and hes telling her shes sleeping with him like i said she hasnt done ANYTHING with anyone else - i just think she should get a divorce before anything does happen

Answer 1

It certainly doesn't sound like she's better off staying with him, and it is not in the children's best interest for her to stay. Having an affair only distracts from the real issue at hand and solves nothing. If she is no longer in love with this man, she should leave him. If she still loves him, she should get counselling. Having an affair is a temporary fix to her emotional roller coaster. She may feel that an affair will not only boost her ego, but it would be one thing in her life she can control. I'm not judging her, but I do feel that she will regret this decision and it would be like throwing gasoline on a fire.

Answer 2

I think they should just try to work things out and see how it goes from their. Their is no reason why she should even think of cheating on him even though their marrige isnt the best. Some of my close family had those same problems has kids everything and they had to learn to deal with things and not hide anything . If things dont get better then maybe divorce is the right thing but always try to work things out for the sake of their kids . If she starts dating other men it will be hard for her kids to understand whats going on around their house and things shouldn't be that way ( Hope Things Get Better)

Answer 3

In the bad old days, before the rule of law, what you are proposing would naturally lead to her husband killing her lover, and beating his wife, then tossing her out of the house where she would likely starve to death. And it was the right thing to do.

These days, we don't do that as part of the luxury of not having to deal with violence as a day to day experience. But, the biological imperative is still there. Which is to say that it is objectively wrong for a woman to do that and the inevitable result is horrible suffering on all sides.

And occassionally, the man still goes out, kills her lover, beats her and tosses her out of the house. The only difference is, these days, the cops haul his *** away to prison afterward.

Realsitically, don't do this. It's wrong and will have disasterous consequences no matter what rationalization you have come up with.

Answer 4

This is totally going to ruin the family and you know what? When those kids get older, they will know why and who split them apart. Your friend needs to grow up and find herself a hobby. Maybe some counseling?? It is people like your friend that makes marriages bad instead of trying to make them better. The grass is never greener and them kids are going to be the only ones to hurt in the end. There are ALWAYS two sides of the story and I am sure that you are just hearing one. Tell your friend to look into counseling before she ruins her kids lives lives

Answer 5

I am all for this baby! You tell your friend that finding a well hung stud that will take good care of her kitty is the bestthing that can happen in a crummy marriage. She needs to get underneath some horned up stud (like myself) and take care of business!

Tell her that it's better if she hooks up with a married guy so that there's no pressure on her to leave etc.

Answer 6

I dont think its right to go and have an affair while she is married. Rather she should honestly tell him theres nothing left int he relationship...and take things from there. I mean if she has an affair, it wouldnt be fair on the kids, does she want her kids to grow up thinking what they would after knowing their mommy has another man? i think the kids have a right too, to live a good life. And she shouldnt be selfish to take that away from them.

Answer 7

that is dumb and she is a coward do not support her trying to cheat she needs to grow up why doesnt she just tell her husband how she feels about this marriage and they can both sit down and fiqure out what they want and need from eachother she is being stupid and the consequences will be devestating if she cheats trust me she needs to work on her marriage instead of running around with you tryiing to cheat on her husband.

Answer 8

Tell her to get a divorce. ASAP. She's not happy and she no longer wants to be with him. Kids are better off coming from a broken home than living in one.

Answer 9

WoW! It must be a fad or something cause all of my girl friends wanna cheat on their husbands, too. I mean, id never do it but i do have thoughts. But they need to know not to give in.

Answer 10

some couples can let the spouse engage in intercourse with other people but me ah hell nah i cant grasp the idea of sharing my partner with another being and i respect the marriage vowes seperate then do what cha do but dont do it on my time!!!