I come from a mentally abusive relationship.My bf doubts me that i'm having affair with other men and he's pinning me.For example, last week when i ws on my way back from work, i was supposed to report to him tht i finished work,but my handphone ran out of battery and i cudnt cal.I had to rush home and got wet in the rain just to charge my batery and call him.When i calld him he called mea ***** and a slut coz he felt i was sleeping around and tht's why i dind't call him.i had to cry and cut myself to prove my love to him.He accepted me back.2days back, my mom calld to my handphone and when he was trying to call me, my line was engaged.He threatend and told me to tell him the truth who i was talking to.I was crying and pleading and telling him to trust me tht it was my mum but he said it was sume men whom i was ******* with.From morning until night whatever i do, whoever i talk to, which path i walk,all i have to tell him.If i dont tell,he'd say i'm ******* around.
2006-06-19 18:42:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anisha81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I toldhim i dont feel happy reporting to him and he said i'm gilty tht's why i can't tell him.I truly love him and till now i still hav tht feeling for him.HOw many night i consumed sleeping pills and went thru pain to forget him but i can't. I lovwered my diginity all for him. I've never slept with any men b4 but he cliaims i love sex and i must be sleeping and Fuc**** around and cheated him. when i asked him to prove, he says he' speculates.Why is he doing this to me?I am going mad! Should i do what he falsely accuse me to do? Should i sleep around so tht i'm not so hurt wth all his false accusations?He's 41 (divorced),. i'm 25-a lawyer and i can't concentrate in anything.I am like a dead copse.For him, i even flunk my masters last year andhe's making me go insane now.What shud i do and shud i go around to sleep with men?But i can't do it but shd i do it to accept al the pain he's giving me?
2006-06-19 18:45:03 · update #1
He is suspicious because he has the sleeping around tendency in himself or he was cheated on before.
He will only get worse as time passes.
You also have issues that enable his behaviours ( cutting, submitting)
This is not a relationship, it is a mutual mental meltdown situation.
2006-06-19 18:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by gobld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maaaaaaaaaaan i just could'nt believe it
okay i have somethig to told u this suck is not at all worthy for n y thing just think he did'nt trust u at all & u loves him?
it's a very bitter truth miss that he doesnt loves u at all but he just want to play with u r body & he is attached to u physically only not emotionally i m 100% sure that u love him but i m 110% sure that he is just using u as a sex toy.. just leave him immediately such guys cannot became even a good friend..
u can find 1000 times better than him.may be some1 else is waiting for u & could be u r true love remember "marry the one who loves u" this good for nothing oldy with prove very dangerous for u in u r future.
(but i still cant believe it that a smart woman like u can't even understand even this much) shoooo him lady otherwise it will be tooooooo late to step back HE IS JUST INTERESTED IN U R BODY NOTHING ELSE
please i dont know who u r but i dont want u to ruin u r life like this at all .u r in a very great position of u r life f 25 & a lawer just enjoy u r life with u r friends u"ll definately find some1
till then we"ll be u r to listen u & yahoo members will help u
good luck may god help u please dont go with him n y more
he"ll destroy u
2006-06-20 02:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be gorgeous...become a lesbian. Find me if you ever want to escape. That would be my answer. Escape. Nobody should have to put up with such an insecure person...he probably wants you to report all the time maybe because he's screwing around with a bunch of women and it's just his guilty conscience abusing you and you ver needed life of stability. Get you master's so you won't have to be co-dependent on anybody. I know you gorgeous...-Siren
2006-06-20 01:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by sirenmadre0906 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a lot to type, and I read every word. I think that he's just misunderstanding you, and you should go itno your phone and show him your recent calls list, of received, as well as dialed calls. That might help. But you two should just sit down sometime, and talk about what is causing these problems. Be yourself, ma'am.
2006-06-20 01:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Francis Rodriguez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that was alot to read but i got enough info to make a suggestion. you said his divorced. maybe his ex wife hurt him by cheating on him. And this has made him have issues when it comes to cheating. by what i read you really love him but i think you need to relise that you can't live your life think this. your 25 you can still have so much fun you dont need to be put through this day after day. i think you need to work out if you love yourself more or him. if you love yourself leave find someone who will trust you and not yell and scream at you. for you to be cutting yourself and taking sleeping pills it means you feel like **** and you need to leave. what happens if you cuut to deep or take one to many sleeping pills????
im sorry if it soundsa a bit nasty but no one deserves to be teated like that.
Good luck xxx
2006-06-20 02:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not going to give u advice. im going to say it strait out. you need to get out of that damn relationship. like NOW becuase if u dont, you will end up dead. he sounds like an obsessive compulsive to me and those are the most dangerous type to live with. im serious. you need to get out of it. you are a lawyer..get an order of protection, get your stuff and get the hell out. stay with your family for a while till u find a place to live but get out of there first before u do anything else. that guy is a timebomb who doesnt need a relationship..he needs mental help before he hurts somebody!!!!!!
2006-06-20 02:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, first off, YOU dont need to be putting up with this bull sh*t from him or any other male sidekick. my ex was the same way and i put up with it for 5 years. DUMP HIM!
second, they only accuse you of cheatin when they themselfs are actually the ones cheating. i strongly encourage you to dump this lowlife scum. He does NOT need to know where you are and who you talk to 24/7. YOU ARE NOT A RUG! stop acting like one! YOU have family and a life and he his ruining it and giving you unwanted and unneeded stress.
i would:
call him and say this " ive desided that im not going to tell you where i am or who im talking to anymore because its none of your f*cking business anymore. If you dont like that then tough sh*t buddy because we are through simply because YOU cant trust me to be faithful to you" "im through putting up with your cheating a$$ and your drama and i dont need your verbal garbage taking up space in my ears anymore, dont call me and lose my number"
then, hang up on him and lose his number and block it from your phone so he cant call you. change your door locks and keep your windows locked and if he shows up at your home tell him to leave or you will call the cops then call the cops if he refuses to leave but DO NOT let him in.
i wish you luck. please stay safe.
2006-06-20 02:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you wan to waste your life with someone like this.. just forget him. nothing is imposisble if u try hard and time can heal everything. go out n mix around i'm sure you can find someone far better than him. imagine if u r his wife i'm sure your life will be a nightmare.
2006-06-20 02:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by unfortunate gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him asap!! you are a lawyer? get a personal protection order move out asap! he is an insecure old fart, you can do much better then him! you need to be with someone your own age!
2006-06-20 01:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by NTH IQ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Question: Am i going the right Path?
My Answer: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!
My Reason: Everyone before me as given it to you!!!
My Solution For You: GET OUT OF THIS ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP NOW!!!!!
2006-06-20 02:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋