im 14 is it ok?

Question

ok well i have an ex boyfriend who is 18. and obviously im not that old. but we were going to have sex even though we were ex's. we decided no to because i would prbly end up telling a friend who would tell sombody else and then everybody knows. plus he is be older brother best friend. thats how we met. soo anyways, i slept at his house for one night because my parent were outta town and they dont have a guest bedroom. soo i slept in his bed with him. the thing is we were makin out because we are stupid and when i woke up i was naked. i know we didnt have sex but is it wrong for me to "sleep" naked with a guy who is four years older than me? i meen he cant go to jail right? we didnt have sex we just almost did. i guess. i dont remember. but he was at work when i woke up so i just got dressed and left. its only been a day but i dont know what to do.i love him and it not lust and its not a crush i accually love him but i dont know what happened.am i a slut? what should i say to him?Help!

Answer 1

listen HE'S 18 whats wrong with you ???? you shouldnt put yourself in that position why is he going out with a 14 year old seriously you should be more carefull (a slut means a girl that sleeps around with more than one guy) dont put yourself down like that !!! you should respect yourself and your parents and in future KEEP YOUR LEGS CLOSED AND YOUR CLOTHES ON !!!!

Answer 2

At 18 your boyfriend is an adult and should be thinking about getting a job and learning how to make ihis way in the world as an man. At 14 you should be thinking about studying for tests in school and making friends with other girls. If you were 24 and he were 28 the 4 years difference wouldn't matter. But there's a tremendous difference between 14 and 18!

If you were married and went to sleep dressed and woke up naked there would be something wrong there! It would mean he was using you for his pleasure, not sharing pleasure with you. I suppose there was no plan for birth control there...so you're risking creating a child with a guy who uses you. What kind of father will he make? Sometimes an older guy will be with younger girls because girls his own age won't put up with his childishness.

Whether you love him or not doesn't have anything to do with the question, so don't worry about that!

Answer 3

can i ask u whether by any chance that u guys used condoms...
if u didn't then i feel u have to go and test and find out ,before it is too late... just make sure that you are not pregnant...

for one i am worried about the part u said u don't remember...
u said u were making out and then when u woke up u were naked...i have a feeling he used u...

like somebody put it before 4 years age difference b/w 14 and 18 year old is somehow not same as age diff b/w 20 and 24 year old ... it is definitely ok if ur dating but not 4 sex...

u r body is matured but ur mind is still kind of like a child ... but that age difference does not matter when u become older bcoz mentally u have grown older...
(matured is something very difficult to explain like somebody who is in their 40 or 50 may not be matured)
if u r pregnant ..probably u will get the real reaction from him..

if he is 18 and still didn't take the precaution of using condoms , knowing that u r 14 and also knowing that u may not have much clue like he may have as he is 18.... i think he is using u....

plz sweetie take care of urself both physically and mentally...
anyways , i don't like the word s!ut...

Answer 4

honey, its wrong to be doing this at your age period!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are going to end up pregnant while this little boy is out getting other girls pregnant and then you will realize what an idiot you were to let someone use you. Try to be smart and don't ruin your life to try and be grown up. You are a kid and having sex is not going to change that. You are a kid until you are in your twenties. Think ahead and think how it will be when you have to tell your mother that you are pregnant and the boy doesn't want you or the baby. Think about having to nurse a baby when you are a baby! Think about getting up all hours of the night to feed a baby. think about hearing about all the fun things your friends are doing, going to college and going out and meeting someone special because you will not be able to do all these things. You'll be home with the baby, probably a lot fatter since you'll gain weight etc. when you have a baby. Also, teens have a lot of problems with babies, they sometimes die or are too small, so they have to stay in the hospital for months. Who will pay for that??? You are talking about 300,000-400,000 dollars. A lot more than your job that you have to get at Walmart making 6.00 an hour will pay. And you will have to work overtime to be able to afford the daycare, because it costs 400-500 a month or more and you won't be able to afford cable and the internet and good food and those cute clothes because you'll have to buy food for the baby and keep the electricity on. The apartment rent will be around 500.00 for a dump and the electricity around 200.00 and you have to get a junker car because you can't afford a good one. But, you keep on letting little boys take your clothes off and ruin your life because you are so insecure you think you have to do this to be somebody. and ps. yes, it is a crime for an 18 yr old to molest a child and if someone finds out, he can be arrested, but then, I kind of think he has it coming to him. If I knew where you were, I would report him for molesting you!

Answer 5

I'm amazed at the narrow minded ignorance in here, do you seriously think nature cares about the law? you can't make laws against nature, and it this ignorant suppression of whats "so" that creates people with guilt and phsychosomatic anxiety, you can screw mother nature over but she always gets even. if its goign to happen its going to happen so let it be, theres no right or wrong about it and there are consquences. I lost my virginity at 11 years old and so what? it was wonderfull and so it was for her,and ive been loosing it at every oppurtunity since and so what. 99% of the world are doing it and the other 1% are liars. all this moral crap thats been going on for what 200,00 years and stilll these morons havnt got a reality on whats so yet??? what is,is what isnt isnt and its goig to happen if you like it or not. in India they marry at 11, why? because antropologically the girl is menstuating and thats natures way of saying she ready to breed. no im not advocating underage sex, but when your ready your ready, just get the difference though between whats so and whats not! is it any wonder people grow up with so many hang ups about whats natural.look at the damage religion has done, all its done is suppress their natural evolvement and you wonder why girls are afraid to appear cheap,or called a s l u t or w h o r e due to this religious and cultural myth branded around from the playground for the rest of their lives. Get off it and do what you want , i did and never regretted it.just make sure you know when your fertile and don't do it then. (middle of your cycle) the human beings biggest fear is to not be loved. and youth wants to be loved! and they have the same feelings as an adult so please tell them to cut all the hypocrital BS. so why are they denying your right to be loved? who told them love was predjudiced anyway? or that a certain age was only allowed it? children(so called) evaluate experiences on love or not love basis because they don't have the intellectual capacity to discern otherwise,and when parents reject them they seek love naturally. so don't sell out for fear of loosing stinking approval of which your goig to do nothing with anyway, and it a compromise. do as thy will shall be the whole of the law!

Answer 6

THIS IS NOT OK BEHAVIOR!!! Whether or not actual sex acts occurred, he is currently guilty of statutory rape and indecency with a minor. You should probably get pregnancy and STD tests because of what you don't remember. Please do yourself a favor, end the relationship now and find someone who is age appropriate for you. You will be growing and changing as a person in radical ways for the next few years and I fear that even if he really loves you, he won't like the changes as you mature, and you may outgrow him too and regret the experience.

Answer 7

If your parents, or anyone else that cares about you brought it to court, he would probably go to jail, or else serve some sort of punishment. When you are in your pre-teens, 4 years is a big difference. If you really love him, wait until you are 18 so he won't get into any trouble.

Answer 8

If he's 18 and your 14, he's got issues. He can go to jail for that matter. Any guy of legal age sleeping naked with a 14 year old is a pervert. "Chucky chester child molester!" Stay away from him.

Answer 9

No it is not OK. Yes, he can go to jail, the charge is corruption of a minor, lewd and lascivious behavior. While you may consider yourself mature, an 18 year old, probably out of school, has no business hitting on a middle school girl. Stick with boys your age and let him go.

Answer 10

girl this is a hard one but ur the same age as me and i think he is using u for sex. ok how can u wake up naked and not remeber??


and it isnt love at 14 u have to be older so just get a grip move on

Answer 11

What? Were you drunk or something? You don't remember? You are on a pathway to a life of being a single unmarried mom. No education, no future.

Use your head and keep out of those types of situations. Wait till you're married to have sex. You will not regret it.