me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 months already and we have had sex many times before but it still hurts her. like it doesnt feel good when i finger her it only hurts her. and she also doesnt get that wet but she says she does get excited but she doesnt get wet.
2006-06-19 18:11:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Are you old enough to be doing this, or even old enough to be asking about it?
2006-06-28 11:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
This actually happened with a friend of mine.
A doctor finally thought to prescribe her a temporary low dose of anti depressant, after ruling out ALL physical causes (infections and the like- she was clean).
The antidepressant helped her feel less anxious that she would feel pain, and broke that mental cycle.
Ofcourse, Masters and Johnson was doing this, at the same "cure rates" before any medication was around...
Some tips to help without meds would be to use alot of lube (it stimulates the body's reaction of being wet, makes things much less painful by removing bad dry friction, and can be sensual -- but get a good brand), practice relaxing, low pressure to actually have sex...
... there's alot of info in that wikipedia article.
For me, what I've found helps, besides all the other stuff... is to take a little ibuprophin (which relaxes muscles)-- I had this problem for a month or so after getting the IUD inserted (cervix would cramp up at the very THOUGHT of being touched again!).
Anyway- hope this was a little coherent and readable- I'm obviously tired :-)
2006-06-19 19:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either youre too big, youre not turning her on or maybe her body needs more stretching....hint hint. A woman has to be truly in the mood and relaxed in order to fully enjoy the moment...if something is wrong with this picture then these are the results you get. Even if you get a good lube it may still hurt if she isnt really turned on enough for her juices to get flowing. If all else fails, maybe you just arent doing it right. Ask her what you can do to make it better...if she's comfortable talking to you about it she'll let you know and if not well, keep trying.
Good Luck!
2006-07-03 17:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by bib 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some KY jelly. It sounds as though her body isn't producing enough natural lubrication. KY jelly is closer to what the body naturally produces. And just because she's not getting wet doesn't mean she's not excited. Just like some guys get harder erections than others, some girls get wetter than others.
2006-07-03 07:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts because she's not wet...get some lube. Even if she did get wet women only get one dose of natural lube after that they need to use something
2006-06-19 18:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by Seerah327 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get her more in the mood before you go and have sex with her.Try a lubricant if you dont think she gets wet enough.It hurts her cause its too dry down there...thats not comfortable!You need to get her excited enough.Do lots and lots of foreplay.Girls need it unlike guys.Take your time..dont rush into it.Good luck!
2006-06-19 18:19:17 · answer #6 · answered by acronin627 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's affraid to hurt your feelings by telling u the real deal.
By the way if you do it right, It is not supposed to hurt...Sorry man.
2006-07-01 23:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sherluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs more play before sex,
2006-07-02 03:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by loveboy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on her age. Sounds like maybe she is too young. If not, try making her feel more relaxed beforehand and remember it's not all about you!
2006-07-03 15:20:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be Vagina might be infected. It happened to me and my girlfriend before. You should get her to a doc and check it out just to be safe.
2006-07-01 23:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by MesadGuys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her see a Dr. if all is well I'm sure he'll recommend a good lubricant...be safe not sorry
2006-07-01 03:07:59 · answer #11 · answered by GrandmaW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋