my best friend is a guy and we've been friends over a year now but im starting to see him alittle differently now. we know everything bout each other already. i want to take a chance and move to the next step with him. i just dont know how to ask him what he thinks or feels bout it. what do i need to do???
2006-06-19 17:53:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow! this is tricky. Many good friends of mine have eventually become couples. Find the right opportunity and then tell him that you've begun seeing him in a different light now and that you've grown to like him more than just a good friend.Ask him how he feels about you? The rest is up to him. No one can tell you how he might react. (Judging by what you say I don't think a year or so is enough time even for you to know how he might respond) It's very hard to tell when it comes to these things. But you will never know unless you try right? Just be prepared for the outcome; good or bad. I do hope that it turns out great. All the best!!
2006-06-19 18:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by rdw74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my best friend, I asked him how he felt about me and he said he loved me but only as a friend. He asked why I'd asked and I told him the truth that I really liked him and that I would like to take the relationship to the next level. It was very difficult but we spent hours talking everything through, we were both honest about everything and although he didn't feel the same way as me we are still very close, and definitely the best of friends. He is always there when I need him which means more to me now than it would have if we had gone for a relationship.I had known my friend for a couple of years before I said anything to him and that was three years ago.
Good luck with it.
2006-06-19 19:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I can tell you that most guys are quite happy and flattered if someone where to reveal their interest in him. However we ar enot all the same and perhaps you should find out his intentions first. Knowing about each other is not always a good idea as this removes some of the mystique between you. But let's face it you can't know everything about someone, even if you think you do.
2006-06-19 22:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by d1ckdeckard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well-- does he feel differently toward you?- is the feeling mutual in his world? I would play it safe- the last thing you want is to jeopardise your already strong friendship with him, and maybe there was always a reason for your friendship that never led at anything more.
I know it's easy for me to say but speaking from experience do you think it is wise to take it one step further? if it all goes wrong you will be more likely to lose a very dear friend.. I'm just speaking from what I experienced many years ago-- i lost my friend because it went that little bit further. The one thing i regret and always will.
2006-06-19 21:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know this guy very well and have had a close friendship with him, there would not be anything wrong with your telling him what you've told us. If he's your friend, he will not say or do anything to make you ashamed of having told him. Trust his kindness. Perhaps he's feeling the same way. It sounds like you two are close enough that the subject can be broached. I wish you the best.
2006-06-19 17:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by Shalom Yerushalayim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing can get rid of confusion but communication.
ask. talk to him what he thinks. You may want to ask half jokingly if he thinks you make a good girlfriend. NOt necessarily a question directed at him, just ask in general if he thinks guys will like you as a gf. You can ask less obvious question to test the water.
Eventually tell him how you feel.
Good luck
2006-06-19 17:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jivan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and go for it. Don't do what most people do and focus on the negative possibilities of such things like 'he may say no' instead look at 'he may say yes' or 'he may feel the same way'. If you do that it will hold you back its that fear of rejection that keeps us from asking questions like that and if you don't ask you may never find out and could have missed your chance so go for it.
2006-06-19 23:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by urieldivine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has made you see him 'in a different light'? You have spent a lot of time together in the past year so I am not suprised you are now feeling this way. Tell him how you feel you mightt be suprised. Good luck.
2006-06-19 21:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by flymetothemoon279 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be care full , make sure this is what you want an he fills the same. Once you make your move theres no going back. and things will never be the same again between you. boyfriends come an go , best friends are all ways there. if its meant to be it will happen wait a bit longer.
2006-06-19 18:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by Llush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest. If you are both very close and share things then you should be comfortable telling him how you feel. If it turns out he isn't interested then talk to him about how you feel and get it out of the way so things aren't awkward between you later.
2006-06-19 17:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋